Controversial relationship coach Jake Maddock says women should date older men

On Aug 17, 2022

Women should be dating men a lot older than they are according to Australia’s self-described ‘tough love dating coach’.

Jake Maddock believes he has cracked the code when it comes to finding and building a ten out of ten relationship after struggling for years to get it right.

Jake, who is now married, says that from his experience coaching thousands of people, when a woman dates a younger man, it rarely works.

He also notes that there are biological reasons why women should date older men and not the reverse. And no, there doesn’t have to be a twenty-year age gap. Five to ten years is about the ideal.

‘Men and women mature emotionally at different times. According to experts, men take about ten years longer to become emotionally mature than for a woman,’ he told FEMAIL.

Jake Maddock (pictured) believes he has cracked the code when it comes to finding and building a ten out of ten relationship after struggling for years to get it right

‘An older man is likely to be less commitment phobic and more decisive about where he wants to take the relationship. He will also have a more mature viewpoint when it comes to solving problems and relationship issues.’

Jake also pointed out that dating an older man will help him step into his ‘masculine energy’ and be a leader in the relationship, which will only enhance his ‘attractiveness’.

‘He will have made his mistakes and is unlikely to repeat them. He won’t play silly games, he chooses you for better reasons and will appreciate you more,’ he added.

Much of the evidence rests in what’s working in Hollywood, according to the dating guru.

‘George Clooney was clearly very careful about the women he chose to date. He was still a bachelor at age 52 when he met Amal Alamuddin in 2013. He is seventeen years her senior, which didn’t faze either of them,’ Jake said.

‘Jerry Seinfeld married Jessica Sklar in 1999, when he was 45 and she was 28. They are still together. Alec Baldwin began dating Hilaria Thomas in 2011, when he was 53 and she was 27. They are still together. Harrison Ford began dating Calista Flockhart in 2002, when he was 60 and she was 38. They are still together.’

Much of the evidence rests in what’s working in Hollywood, according to the dating guru

‘He will have made his mistakes and is unlikely to repeat them. He won’t play silly games, he chooses you for better reasons and will appreciate you more,’ he added (stock image)

Speaking to FEMAIL previously the popular relationship coach revealed learning how to navigate a relationship efficiently has been the greatest accomplishment of his life.

‘There was a good ten-year period in my life that was pure hell because I didn’t understand relationships at all,’ he said.

‘So, I decided to learn about and become a master at them. After years of studying under mentors and reading books and putting information into practice, I achieved a 10/10 relationship,’ he added.

Jake believes men struggle in relationships because they ‘aren’t good at verbalising their wants and needs, or even understanding them’.

‘The greatest mistakes people make are not being intimate enough, not communicating effectively, ignoring masculine and feminine energy, not going on enough dates and disrespecting each other,’ he said.

Jake shares his five pillars for a 10/10 relationship:

1. Raise attraction. It’s easy to fall into lazy habits when you feel comfortable with your other half. Don’t. Yes, you have to be loved for you who are but keep the best parts of who you are at the forefront, the parts they fell in love with.

2. Masculine and feminine energy. We’re not all the same. Respect each other’s differences. Men and women don’t think or act alike. Understand and appreciate differences and use them to build a relationship that’s richer rather than using them to tear a relationship down.

3. Courtship. Remember the thrill of dating. Don’t stop that thrill. A relationship will wither it lapses into a monotonous routine. Boredom makes people look for excitement. That’s one thing we’re all wired to do.

4. Intimacy. Keep making love. Keep those intoxicating love hormones flowing. Keep the bond between you strong.

5. Communication. This one is tricky. Men and women often communicate differently. Allow honesty to come without being defensive. Conversely, be kind not cruel. Mostly, talk. Don’t bottle things up, especially hurts, slights and anger. You can be vulnerable. Talk can be forgiving. And conversation can make understanding and togetherness grow.

Source: Jake Maddock

These views are backed-up in Jake’s Instagram and TikTok videos where he says it is never a woman’s job to ‘ask a guy out’.

‘The guy should plan the date, come up with the idea, he should execute the date and pay for the date. Your job is to sit back and have fun,’ he said in one video.

He also suggests women look for red flags in regards to commitment, explaining men will let you know if they are keen for something long-term.

‘If I guy says let’s go with the flow it says he doesn’t know how to date effectively,’ he said – adding that it can be a cop out and show he just wants to ‘keep sleeping with you’.

‘If a guy says I eventually want something with you but he isn’t making any progress, keeping you on sidelines then you are a plan B.’

He also coaches people after the first few weeks of dating and says when it comes to moving in with a partner there are rules.

‘You can get a new house together or the woman can move in to the woman’s house – the man doesn’t move into the woman’s house,’ he said.

‘You can get a new house together or the woman can move in to the woman’s house – the man doesn’t move into the woman’s house,’ he said

This appears to be so the woman can ‘take the man’s lead’ at home, without having to ‘surrender’ her own space.

The former soldier and builder was always in ‘blokey’ industries which he says gives him a unique insight into how men can bury their emotions.

He decided to pursue his love for love after an horrific car accident four years ago.

‘It was a pivotal moment. I could have died,’ he recalled.

‘What followed was a lot of soul-searching and then the decision to go after what would really make my life worthwhile. A few days after I came out of hospital, I decided to go all in and become a relationship coach. I love this business.’

Five pieces of controversial advice straight from Jake Maddock’s reels:

1- Women should move in with their man, or couples should get a new place together. Men should never move in with their female partner.

2- Couples have ‘no excuses’ not to be intimate three times per week.

3- Relationships aren’t about equality – they are about love and happiness – which is why you shouldn’t deman things to be 50/50.

4- Men must plan, pay for and execute the entire date – and women should never ask a man out first.

5- Relationships don’t need to be fought for. No fighting involved in an ideal relationship because you both want it.