‘I work 9-5 accountant job by day then go swinging with my wife at night’
Sex in a marriage can sometimes become repetitive.
Falling into the same patterns without changing sex positions could become too much of a routine.
But one pair found the best way to jazz up their intimacy, despite being a “typical marriage couple”.
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James*, who works as an accountant in the East Midlands, describes his relationship as “perfect in almost every way”.
However, the 44-year-old and his wife Christie* felt as though their sex life lost its spark.
So as a way of taking this to another level, the lovebirds turned to the world of swinging.
And now James told Daily Star how his life after having sex with people outside his marriage brought the flames back.
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He said: “My wife and I are like any typical married couple, well… during the day anyway.
“We wake up, cook breakfast together, then I head off to my job in our local accountancy firm.”
But around three years into their marriage, James and Christie felt as though their sex life wasn’t as exciting as before.
“We’ve always been adventurous people and, almost inevitably, we found ourselves in somewhat of a rut,” he added.
“We had a discussion about how we could reignite our spark so we stumbled across the notion of ethical monogamy.”
James said the pair tried adding people into their relationship with consent from one another.
He explained: “This felt like a natural fit for us and we were excited to give it a go!
“We both fully understood what we were about to explore and couldn’t wait to expand our horizons.
“We’ve always been quite an open couple and definitely weren’t strangers to threesomes, foursomes, and ‘moresomes’.
“So when we decided to give swinging a try, we weren’t surprised to find that we absolutely loved it!”
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Now the couple find meeting new people exciting as it opens new opportunities.
Generally they enjoy BDSM so they’re usually excited to hear about new kinks and fetishes they could try.
Speaking about how swinging became their new thing, James said: “We first looked into events near us.
“The party was nothing like negative assumptions surrounding this lifestyle sometimes suggest.
“We were welcomed by a host and walked into a venue filled with couples and singles who were all happy and fun.”
He continued: “Some were having sex and some weren’t and we felt no awkwardness whatsoever.
“At swinging parties you can drink, dance, and chat to whoever you want; if you want to take things further, you can.”
The pair said Eklipse Parties were by far their favourite couple and quickly became regulars.
He concluded: “We love spending our weekends being whipped and spanked. Then, it’s back to the grind on Monday.
“Our jobs don’t intertwine with our swinging lives at all; we’re private people.”
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James said there’s no criteria when it comes to swingers.
“We’re an incredibly diverse community and that’s what makes the parties so exciting,” he said.
“You never know who you’re going to meet.”
*James and Christie’s names have been changed.
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