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SALLY SORTS IT: Co-op gave me husband’s ashes with fallacious identify inside

Last summer time, my husband, from whom I used to be estranged, died immediately. As his subsequent of kin, it was left to me to rearrange his cremation, which I did by way of Co-op Funeralcare.

When I opened the field containing the ashes on the day of the deliberate scattering, I discovered paper with the main points of a distinct man on it. The shock was indescribable.

Whose ashes did I’ve and what hope did I’ve of placing issues proper?

Anon.

Sally Hamilton replies: The letter you despatched me in full revealed the extent of the upset you and your 4 grown-up kids have endured following your husband’s dying and the crass mistake over his ashes.

You advised me the way you had ran into your husband for the primary time shortly on the town at some point and agreed to satisfy for espresso. When he did not present up, intuition advised you one thing was fallacious, and also you went to his flat the place you tragically discovered him useless, confirmed afterwards to be from pure causes.

A reader was shocked when she found the wrong name in the box containing her husband's ashes ahead of the planned scattering

A reader was shocked when she discovered the fallacious identify within the field containing her husband’s ashes forward of the deliberate scattering

As his subsequent of kin, you needed to filter out the flat and take care of debt calls for.

In amid this stress, you organized his cremation. As he had little cash, the Department for Work and Pensions agreed to pay the invoice of £1,195 to the native department of Co-op Funeralcare, with a contribution of simply £300 — the stability left in your husband’s checking account.

Arrangements have been delayed as you have been advised by Co-op the invoice had not been paid, whereas DWP insisted it had been. Weeks glided by till Co-op confirmed the invoice had been paid and the cremation passed off in September.

When you collected the ashes, they have been imagined to be in a field inside a bag labelled along with your husband’s particulars.

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You made plans to scatter his ashes at sea, as he wished. It was solely on the day of the deliberate scattering that you simply opened the field to take away the bag and found the paper with one other man’s particulars on.

After a string of calls and texts to Co-op, you requested for a letter confirming whose ashes you had. The department supervisor, you stated, refused to just accept legal responsibility and requested you carry again the ashes in individual.

This concerned a 120-mile spherical journey by automotive. Staff took the piece of paper with the opposite man’s particulars and knowledgeable you the ashes you obtained have been your husband’s.

Unconvinced, you left, asking for this affirmation to be put in writing. Some time later, you obtained a letter — unsigned and undated — providing £200 compensation. You have been livid and felt unable to scatter the ashes till you had extra certainty.

By the time we spoke, you had initiated a criticism by way of the National Association of Funeral Directors (NAFD), which runs an neutral complaints service. Meanwhile, I requested Co-op Funeralcare to offer me its facet of the story. It stated the ashes you obtained have been definitely the proper ones and that an administrative blunder was accountable for the fallacious piece of paper touchdown up contained in the field.

A spokesman stated: ‘We have strong procedures in place for the identification, care and return of ashes. A radical investigation has been carried out, and from this we now have assured your reader that the ashes she obtained have been these of her late husband’.

The ‘strong procedures’ contain the printing of a label from the digital data of the deceased, which is utilized to the surface of the incinerator. After cremation, this label is placed on a biodegradable bag containing the ashes.

A second label itemizing the deceased’s identify is then utilized to the field by which the bag of ashes is positioned. Finally, a cremation certificates is positioned contained in the field — which additionally says the deceased’s identify. Co-op stated it logs ashes when they’re obtained and an additional label is generated, which is positioned contained in the field and solely eliminated as soon as the ashes are collected. It was at this stage that issues went horribly fallacious in your case, with a Co-op worker inserting the fallacious paperwork.

The spokesman stated: ‘Due to an administrative error, a label was incorrectly positioned contained in the field containing her husband’s ashes. We are extraordinarily sorry for the misery this has triggered.’

Nevertheless, Co-op insisted that the field of ashes contained the three figuring out labels along with your husband’s identify. It added that as you had requested the return of any metals out of your husband’s physique and the coffin, these have been offered in a separate bag within the field, marked together with his identify and cremation quantity.

You stay sad, even after the findings of the NAFD dispute decision service accepted Co-op’s rationalization. However, for the sake of your psychological well being, you’ve got now determined, six months after your husband’s dying and following my intervention, to settle. Co-op got here again with a proposal of £750 compensation, which you’ve got accepted. You are actually planning to scatter the ashes.

I perceive why you are feeling unsettled. There will be no absolute proof the ashes are his. DNA testing wouldn’t resolve your doubts, as it is going to have been destroyed by the warmth of the cremation.

Many bereaved households might be involved about this story, and, like me, hoping the funeral trade is doing the utmost doable to keep away from such mix-ups occurring.

It could also be small comfort, however Co-op confirmed that ‘re-training and training have been carried out to make sure all needed classes have been realized’.

I’m on the finish of my tether with NatWest card chaos  

On November 19, 2022, my husband used his NatWest debit card within the ChangeGroup money machine at North Terminal, Gatwick Airport, to withdraw £200 from our joint checking account. The exterior of the machine stated withdrawals have been free, however when the request to proceed got here up it included a transaction payment. He cancelled instantly.

Within a minute, his cellphone pinged saying £200 had come out of our account.

My husband rang ChangeGroup and was advised they might see an error that may be rectified. It has been over a 12 months and the cash shouldn’t be again in our account. Please assist.

D. L., Castletown, Isle of Man.

Sally Hamilton replies: You turned to your financial institution, NatWest, to retrieve the lacking money, however received nowhere and rightly felt on the finish of your tether. I requested the financial institution to step up its efforts and inside just a few days an worker contacted you immediately.

He apologised profusely and organized to return your £200.

Interestingly, he was from the fraud division, which suggests the financial institution suspected foul play someplace alongside the road, however it gave no additional rationalization.

Straight to the purpose 

I had a 30-day SIM-only contract with Talkmobile. I let the corporate know I used to be ending it earlier than 30 days and cancelled my direct debit. But greater than a 12 months later I used to be refused credit score. It seems Talkmobile added a default to my credit score rating for £8. 

M. T., Stamford, Lincs.

Vodafone, companion of Talkmobile, says that contact was made with you consistent with its regular course of to remind you of any excellent fee — on this case £8. But it has eliminated the default and late fee markers because of the small quantity owed.

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In June I booked three return flights to Toronto with The Flights Guru however one individual in our get together fell unwell so I cancelled her ticket. The Flights Guru stated I had a £76 refund to come back for Air Passenger Duty however I nonetheless have not obtained it. 

D. S., Halifax, Yorks.

The Flights Guru apologises for any inconvenience attributable to the delay. It stemmed from a customer support agent leaving the organisation so the refund request was not processed. You have now been refunded £76 and have been provided a £50 credit score voucher as a gesture of goodwill.

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I take advantage of a Garmin sat nav system and I additionally purchased a lifelong route replace for it. This programme prompts me to replace the maps when wanted, however final 12 months one replace worn out all my UK maps. Garmin stated I could not reinstall the wiped data as my system was previous. 

R. Ok., by way of electronic mail.

Garmin has despatched you a safe digital (SD) card — a sort of reminiscence card utilized in gadgets corresponding to cameras — so that you could add the mapping manually at no additional value. It will discuss you thru the set up must you want it.

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I meant to return an undesirable merchandise to Very however by accident gave the courier a Next parcel value £130. I contacted Next instantly and was advised that the parcel can be forwarded by Very inside 14 days however it has not arrived. 

D. A., London.

Very has contacted you to apologise for the time taken to kind out this situation, which it has now resolved.

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