Man stalked by ex-lover says he was instructed to ‘kind it out himself’

An Irishman who was stalked by his obsessed feminine ex-lover for a decade has opened up about how he was instructed to ‘kind it out himself’ earlier than fleeing to the UK.

Filmmaker Jarlath Rice instructed new Virgin Media One documentary Stalked that the miserable ordeal was ‘very humiliating’. He beforehand mentioned it left him on the point of suicide.

He revealed folks instructed him ‘kind it out your self’ and claimed that after calling the Garda ‘so many instances’, he was instructed by a guard that if he contacted them once more, they ‘would lock me up for the night time — downside solved’.

Lina Tantash launched into a ‘sinister and sustained’ marketing campaign in opposition to Jarlath, bombarding him with messages and demanding that he see her after accusing him of breaking a 21-clause ‘love contract’.

They had a quick sexual relationship after first assembly each other in a Dublin café – and it was solely after Jarlath fled to the UK that Tantash was sentenced for her crime in 2018. In Ireland, the offence of stalking solely got here into impact in November 2023.

Speaking within the documentary, which aired on Monday, Jarlath recalled how he was left a notice from Tantash asking if she may be a part of him when on the café, reported The Irish Sun.

He mentioned he thought this manner of first assembly was ‘sort of cute and a bit humorous’ and mentioned he ‘did not get any loopy vibes’ from Tantash, who gave him her quantity.

But after weeks of seeing each other, he broke it off. When she continued to contact him he instructed her he now not needed a relationship together with her and requested her to go away him alone.

But she refused saying he owed her greater than 50,000 euro and even drew up a ‘love contract’ which stipulated he ought to cease denying they had been in a relationship. 

It additionally acknowledged he ought to reside together with her three days per week, converse to her on the cellphone for no less than quarter-hour each night and be good to her.

The Irishman obtained fixed calls, messages and emails from Tantash – and regardless of switching his quantity repeatedly, she all the time managed to pay money for it.

She even employed a non-public detective to trace him down and contacted his pals, household and work colleagues. 

Jarlath claimed she threatened suicide and he even filmed her kicking in his door in 2012. Yet when he referred to as the Garda, he was apparently disregarded. 

‘I referred to as the police so many instances. The Guard mentioned if I referred to as once more, he would lock me up for the night time — downside solved,’ claimed Jarlath. 

In April 2014, Jarlath and his girlfriend on the time had been leaving his dwelling when Tantash ‘bodily attacked’ him and ‘screamed’ at his girlfriend.

‘She tore my shoulder socket out. I felt it pop and I used to be in agony. She tried to place me by a plate glass window. I did assume she was going to kill me,’ he mentioned.

Tantash was fined after she pled responsible to a Section 2 assault and threatening behaviour in a public place, reported the publication.

Jarlath desperately fought to flee Tantash’s attentions and finally moved from Dublin to Brighton, East Sussex the place he began work as a school tutor.

But Tantash, then a ‘highly-respected’ challenge supervisor at prestigious Trinity College Dublin, adopted him from Dublin, taking on a brand new function in London.

Her marketing campaign of harassment escalated after she suspected Jarlath had began a relationship with work colleague, Sarah Bolland.

Miss Bolland, who was not romantically concerned with Mr Rice, was devastated by the abusive calls. 

But after reporting her behaviour to the police in England, the place stalking has been against the law since 2012, Tantash was finally arrested. 

She was charged with one rely of stalking Mr Rice between July 2015 – February 2018 and one rely of stalking Miss Bolland. She was convicted after a trial at Brighton Magistrates’ Court.

Tantash was sentenced to 4 years in jail after she was convicted of two counts of stalking in 2018.  

In a sufferer affect assertion on the time of her sentencing, Jarlath mentioned the marketing campaign of stalking left him on the point of suicide and had been in ‘despair’.

He mentioned: ‘For over 10 years I’ve needed to reside with verbal, psychological and bodily abuse. The aggressive and abusive dismantling of my life has left me weak, frightened and exhausted.’

He mentioned: He had been ‘pushed deep into despair’ including: ‘At my worst I’ve gone by durations of despair with suicide ideation.’

In her defence, Tantash mentioned she got here from a secure, higher center class household however was affected by a psychological situation.

She claimed to have paid Jarlath’s sizeable money owed and supported his profession in return for a romantic dedication.

Miss Bolland mentioned: ‘It’s a wierd and horrible expertise when somebody psychologically harasses you want this. It’s an terrible feeling. It’s astonishing how a lot it will possibly affect your life, your temper, your ideas.’

Teresa Mulrooney, defending, mentioned: ‘Miss Tantash deeply regrets her behaviour and has come to grasp the affect it has had.’

In 2018, police figures confirmed a 3rd of stalking victims had been male; 41 out of 46 police forces throughout the UK handled 1,800 stalking circumstances in opposition to males between 2014 and 2017.

But it’s believed that in actuality the determine was a lot larger as round 85 per cent of stalking victims don’t report the incident to the police.

According to the Crime Survey for England and Wales, greater than 1.2million folks had been stalked within the 12 months ending March 2016, with 759,000 being ladies whereas the opposite 450,000 had been males.

Figures obtained by BBC 5 Live Investigates discovered virtually half (47 per cent) of stalking crimes reported by male victims had been dedicated by different males.

The Freedom of Information request confirmed figures from 41 out of the 46 British police forces who had been requested about stalking.