‘My boyfriend has informed everybody we’re married – there is a large problem with it’
A lass has been left utterly baffled after her fella started telling everyone they’re hitched, despite never popping the question.
For many lovebirds, a lavish white wedding and a jaw-dropping proposal are the ultimate fantasy. Yet, one gal’s bloke has seemingly bypassed the whole shebang, declaring to the world they’re man and wife without so much as an ‘I do’.
The duo, who’ve both got their hearts set on eventually walking down the aisle, have hit a peculiar snag thanks to the chap’s tendency to lie about their marital status, leaving the ’20 year old’ lady in a right pickle. Now, his workmates are under the impression they’ve made it official, with her other half adamant about referring to her as ‘his wife’ in conversation.
“We have been together for a few years now and we have a young child together,” the anonymous woman wrote on Reddit. “A few days ago, we were talking about work and while he was quoting one of his co-workers he called me his wife.
“When I asked why that co-worker would say that, he explained that his work thinks that we are married.” When she appeared uncomfortable, her partner explained it was simply to ‘stop other girls from flirting with him’.
This had apparently been an issue before and his explanation seemed to make sense. But the anonymous Redditor couldn’t shake the feeling there was something more to it.
She went on to say: “This isn’t the only time he has called me his wife either, as he does so in private every once in a while and sometimes when he is talking to friends who know we aren’t married yet. This is something he also did before our child was born and I’d often go: ‘We aren’t married yet!’.
“[Telling him this more recently] made him kind of sad and he told me that it hurt his feelings that I don’t want to be called his wife.”
Amid this, the woman reiterated that she would like to be his wife, but calling her that without a wedding or engagement just seems a little off.
Primarily, she’s concerned about giving people the wrong impression, while also fearing that her partner may become complacent if he’s already convinced they’ve wed. She explained: “A small part of me is worried that he won’t ever actually propose because he is already in the mindset that we are married.
“While I don’t want an expensive ring or big wedding, I still want to have a small ceremony for friends/close family – and also, legally be married. It might seem a bit dramatic, but for the longest time my boyfriend didn’t even know what it meant to be engaged and thought we already were.
“Am I making problems out of nothing? Otherwise, how do I have that conversation without making my boyfriend [feeling] like I don’t want to marry him…?”
The anonymous Reddit post quickly sparked a storm of comments online, with users eager to weigh in on the drama. “People do that in my area sometimes, and frankly I find it embarrassing for them,” one user confessed.
“I would let him know that marriage means something to you and it’s sacred/special because it requires all these traditional steps and commitments. And he’s ruining the specialness of marriage by using the word this way.”
Yet, one user showed a bit of understanding: “Maybe it’s partially to fit in with older, married men at work…People kind of tend to flock to others in the same stage as them,” while another questioned: “So, does no one ever ask him why he never wears a wedding ring? Or does he wear a wedding ring as part of the lie also?”
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