‘My hubby will not bonk me and I do not get why as a result of I seem like Jessica Alba’

Everyone goes through dry patches in the bedroom, but one woman hasn’t had sex in over four years.

She said she needs “serious help” as her love life is fading, even though she has an amazing husband. The anonymous woman asked people on Reddit for advice due to the fact that her sex life has become so empty.

The worst part is, she doens’t understand why, because she knows she’s hot. In fact, she looks a little like Jessica Alba.

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In the post, the woman wrote: “I (35F) have had zero sex in the past +4 years! My husband (40) never initiates and never seems to desire sex!

“I’m a very affectionate person! I like to hug and hold before sleep, but he first stopped doing that about 6 years ago when we still had sex every 4-5 months. I tried to communicate with him.

“It hurts so much talking about it, because as a woman you get all kinds of labels and names! First I tried to be more interesting in bed, then I bought toys, and did other silly things, but nothing worked!”

Soon after this, she claimed everything stopped, and the sex totally dwindled. But she insists it’s not because she’s “ugly”, or that anything is wrong with her body. She also said he has the freedom to spend time with friends and doing what he wants, so there’s no pressure in that way either.

Within the first three years, she said they actually had a “perfect” sex life, and he was up for trying lots of things. This is why shes really doesn’t understand what’s gone wrong.

She continued: “I’m 35, but look younger than my age – at least 5-7 years or I like to think so (I’ve been told so many times)! People might say I look like Jessica Alba!

“I don’t know how much of it is true, and don’t know if you find her attractive, but again that’s what I’ve been told and it might not be right. All I know is I don’t look like an average housewife, and I try so hard not to be an average woman.

“I want to look hot in everything I wear without using filters or cosmetics. I also work out and look athletic, I used to be a college swimmer so I know how to take care of myself! I am very loyal, but sometimes I think of cheating on him just for sex!

“You have no idea how I feel as I write this. But it’s painful! I have argued with him over this problem and asked for his love and it’s killing me!

“I tried initiating, but he acts like it’s a force or complains it’s not the time! Now I have completely stopped begging and do not want to make a move anymore!

“I mean it’s 4 years of zero sex but before that, for 2 years it was always me begging for it! I’m not a freaking sex addict or whatever they call it these days! I begged for a touch almost every 2 months!

“And it had to be me end up heartbroken just for asking! And it wasn’t like he was okay with it every time either! So I stopped begging. I completely stopped!”

Two years ago, she started using sex toys, but he comaplined about the sound, so she had to do it when he wasn’t at home. They also now sleep in seperate bedrooms.

Even though they love each other very much, she doesn’t know what to do. She said she’s “devastated”, and feels as though she may “explode”.

Since she opened up about the ordeal, people have been quick to share their thoughts. They had all sorts of theories as to what may be going on.

One person said: “My first thought: Your husband should be seen by a physician for a wellness check and his lab work should include a testosterone test.”

Another added: “Are you guys going on dates together ? Maybe try to build up romantic feelings by going to a movie, do some outdoor activity together. Try to sing or dance together. Do some fun activity. Doing these activities may help you two to improve the feelings much better than they are now.”

A third replied: “I feel for you. That’s how it was with my ex. I just stopped trying and it makes you feel terrible to be constantly rejected. I’m paying for it now in my current marriage, I can’t seem to get over the fear of being rejected even though my partner is 100% on board. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You deserve better.”

Meanwhile, a fourth commented: “I was gonna say he is asexual, but then you mentioned you used to have a lot of sex. I think he needs his hormones checked. Ignore the people saying he’s cheating. Even cheaters still bang their wives occasionally. This is a medical issue.”

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