Bride calls off wedding ceremony after making shock discovery about fiancé and his mom
A bride-to-be revealed she called off her wedding after discovering her fiancé had made a ‘red flag’ decision to buy a house with his mother – just months before the big day.
The woman, 28, from the U.S., took anonymously to Reddit, where she detailed her shock after uncovering her 30-year-old partner’s ‘abnormal’ plan to live full time with his mother.
In the post, uploaded to the popular subreddit r/AmITheA*****e on 9 March, the woman explained that she and her partner of five years had planned to wed later this year.
Prior to the wedding, the pair had been locked in talks to save up and buy a home together, as well as discussing the possibility of having children at a later stage.
However, their plan came to a standstill when the woman discovered her fiancé had already purchased a house with his mother – but had cut his wife-to-be out of the transaction.
She explained: ‘Apparently she [his mother] found “the perfect place” and convinced him to split it with her because she didn’t want to rent anymore.
‘So, now, instead of planning our future together, he’s financially tied to his mother, who is going to be living there fulltime.’
The woman added: ‘When I asked him where I fit into all this, he goes, “Oh well, you can move in too, of course!” Like I’m supposed to be thrilled to live in a house his mom picked out, partially owns… and is just there all the time.’
A bride-to-be revealed she called off her wedding after discovering her fiancé had made a ‘red flag’ decision to buy a house with his mother – just months before the big day (stock image)
She went on to reveal that her fiancé had accused her of ‘taking too long’ to save money for a deposit and that his mother ‘offered a faster way’ to secure a home.
The woman claimed she has now called off her wedding and has notified her partner that she ‘needs space’ to reconsider marrying someone who ‘thinks this is normal.’
She concluded: ‘Now his whole family is blowing up my phone saying I’m being dramatic, that “it’s just a house” and that I’m overreacting. Even my own parents are saying canceling the whole wedding is extreme. Am I losing my mind? AITAH?’
The post triggered thousands of responses from stunned Redditors, with many offering support and assuring the woman that she ‘dodged a bullet’ by calling off the wedding.
One person wrote: ‘He didn’t just buy a house. He built a whole future with his mommy and left you out of it. And the fact that he thought you’d just move in like a guest in a home his mother controls? Disrespectful as hell.
‘This isn’t just a red flag, it’s a parade of them. If you marry him, you’re not getting a husband…you’re signing up to be the third wheel in his codependent mommy-son fantasy.’
Agreeing, another said: ‘I guarantee that was the whole point. He’s planning a future without her in it. If something happens between them she can’t touch the house because his mom is part owner.’
A third added: ‘NTA. Dealbreaker here. You were not part of the decision. Him and his mammy will run your life if you stay,’ while another said, ‘He did it so you will never legally get it. Glad you called off wedding, you escaped.’
Another Redditor wrote: ‘Your fiancé and his mother own the house. They can evict you at any time – Basically, he’s telling you he wants a house more than he wants you.
‘It will be her house, her rules. She can choose the paint colors , furniture placement. Who is going to do the cooking? How will the cleaning chores be allocated. I see nothing but problems in your future.’
One person joked: ‘Man it’s going to be hard for him to date again telling women he is in a 30 year mortgage with his mum.’
Another warned: If he puts his mother first everything or makes important decisions like this without you it will cause a lot of conflict.’
Finally, one person urged the woman to follow her intuition, writing: ‘Go with your heart.’
