‘I caught my finest mate’s husband bonking Mrs Claus on the kitchen desk’
JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who wishes she could unsee her friend’s husband pleasuring another woman
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Table manners
I’ve just caught my best friend’s husband in the arms of a sexy Mrs Christmas. He was naked, while she was dressed in a saucy red outfit. They were rutting on the kitchen table. We all froze and then he screamed: “Get out”. Now I don’t know what to do.
Must I tell my friend that her man is a dirty cheat? Will he come after me if I do? I can’t unsee his skinny bottom going up and down on his mystery woman. I’m in shock.
The problem is that my friend has a very small letter box… I went round to deliver my Christmas card but couldn’t get it through the slot, so I pushed the side gate open and went round the back.
My plan was to leave it on the kitchen table and tiptoe away. I never imagined I’d find her fella fornicating on it instead.
JANE SAYS: I suggest you busy yourself with your Christmas preparations and forget the whole thing. A guy can do whatever he likes in the privacy of his own home. You weren’t invited onto the property; you let yourself in and crept round the back.
Perhaps your friend already knows about this other woman and doesn’t mind. It’s not for you to embarrass or shame her. If his affair IS illicit and he’s being this brazen within the home, then the chances are he’ll trip himself up sooner than later anyway.
Your friend and her relationship are not your business. Just make sure that you’re around to support her if she needs your help in the future.
Terrified of the past
An ex-colleague is making waves. A couple of years ago I got drunk at a staff party. I staggered up to her and kissed her. I admit that I had a huge crush on her and was hoping we’d hook up. We didn’t.
She told me to get stuffed and I went home alone. She still works at my old firm (I’ve moved on) and is telling people that she’s considering lodging a complaint. I’m ashamed and very scared.
How do I keep this from my new partner?
JANE SAYS: Don’t be tempted to hide anything from your partner. Speak up so that she can help and support you. A couple of years ago you crossed a line. You kissed a woman without her consent. If she now feels inclined to pursue a claim of assault, then that’s something that will have to be heard and dealt with through the appropriate channels.
No one would blame you for feeling guilty and scared, but she’s entitled to speak up. Do the right thing. Cooperate fully and learn from this. Being drunk is never an excuse.
Do you need to look at the effect alcohol has on your behaviour in general?
Fussy neighbour is a drag
I try to be nice to my old neighbour because she’s lonely and broke but she’s very trying. I bought tickets to a Christmas concert, and she talked all the way through it.
I took her to a festive market, and she gave me a massive book from a charity shop as a present that I had to carry around all day. She’s so annoying.
JANE SAYS: You need to establish ground rules if you’re to spend any time with this woman again. Try and pre-empt anything she might do. Explain that you’d like to listen to, and enjoy, any future concerts and that no further gifts are necessary.
Don’t forget that you have your mental, physical and financial health to consider. Do you continue to see her for the right reasons?
