‘My boyfriend groped me at my birthday meal – different diners had been disgusted’

JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who wishes her hands-on lover was more respectful and discreet

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He’s too handy

My newish boyfriend is a groper and toucher. He never stops stroking and petting me. It’s so irritating. Recently we were in a restaurant for my birthday, and he pawed me for the entire night.

He kept putting his hands down my top and up my skirt. He talked dirty and insisted on feeding me.

At one point he went to the toilet and the woman at the next table asked if I was okay. She said he looked like a ‘dirty creep’. I snapped back saying I was ‘fine’, but I was mortified. How do I get him to cool it when he claims to fancy me so much?

JANE SAYS: What a horrible sounding guy. Sadly, this person has no respect for you. He doesn’t know how to behave appropriately and views you as an object. Never forget that you’re not his possession to paw and fondle. The fellow diner could clearly see what was going on and was disturbed and worried for you.

Take her warning as much needed wake-up call.

Step back and look at this relationship in its entirety. Does this man make you feel cherished, listened to and happy? If he doesn’t then he’ll have to go because you cannot continue to spend time with someone who doesn’t know how to behave and doesn’t understand or acknowledge the word ‘no’.

Remember that you are not his possession and there’s nothing in this world that ties you to him. You owe him nothing.

Guest is beyond boring

Every Easter a relative of my husband’s comes to stay for TWO weeks. He brings nothing and contributes not a penny. He has no conversation or interest in us.

He’s never once asked me a question about myself or told me anything about his life. Instead, he sits in front of the telly or goes out the garden for a smoke. I’ve told my husband that he is not to come again this year, but my hubby doesn’t know how to put him off. Nothing works.

JANE SAYS: It could be that staying with you is the highlight of this chap’s year. Every Easter he rocks up at your place for a fortnight of free food and drink. He watches your TV, chills out and has a very nice time.

But what’s in for you? Why should you feed and entertain someone who gives nothing back? I’m sure that you have more than enough on your plate. I suggest you take control.

Get onto this man and tell him that you won’t be able to host again. Simply say that you’re too busy to see him. No lies, no excuses – nothing more complicated than that. Suggest your husband goes to him – and takes him out for a cuppa – instead.

I’ve delighted her long enough

My wife wants a New Year Divorce. She says she can’t see herself ‘enduring’ another twelve months with me. Apparently 2026 is the year she plans to be free of me and my annoying ways. I’ve told her I love her but that doesn’t seem to make any difference.

JANE SAYS: Has your wife considered the emotional, physical and financial upheaval involved in a divorce? If you own your own property, then is she prepared to sell up and move to a different location?

You might be ‘annoying’ but can you and she not talk about your problems and work through them?

Divorce is not a process to be undertaken lightly. She might find it very cold and lonely out there as single person. Encourage her to open up. Try and find some common ground and some solutions.