‘I’m 27 and my boyfriend is many years older – he performs dementia video games in mattress’
A woman dating a man over 20 years older than her has lifted the lid on what their age-gap relationship is really like – admitting that ‘some stereotypes are true’
They claim age is merely a number when two adults start a relationship, but one pair with a significant age difference has revealed what it’s truly like to be with someone decades your senior. When dating as an adult, it’s perfectly normal to connect with people who aren’t precisely your age, and differences of five to 10 years are quite typical.
However, one 27-year-old woman has revealed she was stunned when she fell for a bloke nearly double her age, as there are certain drawbacks to being with someone much older that most folk don’t think about. Alexandra Cornish first encountered 49-year-old CEO Andrew Chan when he arranged an appointment for a tattoo at the studio where she was employed.
Despite him being 22 years older, Alex quickly fell for Andrew. The couple have no plans to wed and won’t be starting a family as Andrew has undergone a vasectomy, but their romance remains solid, four years since they first met.
Now, Alex has revealed some of the disadvantages of being with a man significantly older than herself, declaring that “some stereotypes are true”. The woman even confessed that whilst she’s still in her twenties, her boyfriend has reached the stage where he must do dementia prevention exercises in bed to maintain his mental sharpness and wellbeing.
She revealed: “I want to be honest and say yes, some stereotypes are true. Andrew does pay for a lot, and occasionally, I worry there could be medical concerns down the line, with him being so much older.”
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There are a lot of things that run through my mind, which link to one of our viral videos of it being heartbreaking that I’m 27 and he’s in bed next to me doing dementia prevention games. We make a joke out of it, but the reality is, there are a few concerns.”
Alex added that her parents were certainly less than thrilled when they discovered she was dating someone the same age as her mother, but they have since warmed up to Andrew and now “love” him.
She continued: “Were my parents pleased when I said I was dating a man a couple of months older than Mum?
No. But now they’ve gotten to know him, as have my friends, they see how complimentary we are and how well we work together – and they love him.”
Andrew has three children from a previous relationship and underwent a vasectomy at 31, which he has no intentions of reversing so he can have children with Alex. He also insisted he won’t be proposing to Alex because he no longer believes “marriage defines a relationship” after experiencing one divorce himself.
He stated: “We’re happy, we travel, we live life.”
And Alex is also perfectly content without having children. She expressed that she “never felt deeply attached to the idea of having kids”, as it felt more like something that was expected of her than something she genuinely desired for herself.
Despite their immense happiness together, the couple’s 22-year age difference does attract criticism from online commentators and even from individuals they once considered friends – something Alex admits can be hurtful.
She elaborated: “The comments that stick with me are from old friends, who make snarky remarks because they perceive our relationship a certain way, without knowing how it actually is.
“Those stick, but I don’t remain friends with the people who say such things. No one important to me has ever made me feel uncomfortable.
“Alex also stated that the biggest misconception about her relationship with Andrew is that they have nothing in common due to their age difference. She vehemently denied this, asserting that their values align perfectly and she couldn’t ask for more from their connection.
She expressed: “What is untrue is the assumption that the age gap would mean we have no similarities. We are very focused on fitness, travelling, and we have similar values.
“I love him and find him so motivating towards my goals, and that is from the age gap.”
