‘I sleep with my girlfriend and her wild stepsister in the identical day – I’m taking part in with fireplace’

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She’ll do anything

My girlfriend’s stepsister is trouble with a capital T. She’s tricky, unpredictable and wild.

She’ll drink anything, bed anyone and take on any dare. Once she turned up at an ex-lover’s house pretending to be an IT support worker. The two of them had sneaky sex on his office desk while his poor wife cooked the dinner.

She and my girlfriend stopped talking after some money went missing in 2024. My girl was furious when £300 disappeared from her bedroom. She blamed her stepsister who fought back – even though she was eventually found to be guilty…

I know that I shouldn’t have anything to do with this wicked stepsister, but I can’t keep away. I’m addicted to her touch. We meet up and have sex any time my girl’s back is turned. We use my mate’s pad for passion. Once we’re behind closed doors, we tear each other’s clothes off and make love, in every position and in every room. There’s no getting away from the fact that sex with her is outrageous, but I feel bad.

My girl loves and trusts me as much as she loathes her stepsister. I just know that she’d be furious to discover that I’m playing away behind her back, and I loathe myself for cheating, but I’m in so deep and don’t know how to get out.

If I’m honest, I’m slightly scared of what my lover might do or say if I attempt to break things off with her. Sometimes I find myself having sex with both women on the same day, just to cover my tracks. Help.

JANE SAYS: You can end this double life any time you want.

Just stop and take a breath. This is your life and it’s in your hands.

The first thing you need to do is tell your lover that everything has gone too far. Explain that you’re sorry, but you can no longer see her because you’re already in a relationship and you’re acting like a fool. Then, quickly, you get to your long-term girlfriend and confess to everything. Don’t try and sugar coat the truth. Take full responsibility for your behaviour; express your regret and apologise.

Describe to your long-suffering girlfriend how you intend to make things better in future. If she tells you to get out, then you get out. If she hints that she’s interested in starting again, then you work from there. What you can’t do is keep sneaking around behind your partner’s back, because that’s immature and unfair.

I suggest you also ask yourself why you felt tempted to cheat in the first place. Maybe your lover will threaten to go public with your secret and ruin you, but you’ll have to take that on the chin and deal with it.

Play with fire and you’ll inevitably get burned. Surely you realise that it can only be a matter of time before this whole situation blows up in your face.

Plastic fantastic

My new boyfriend wants me to look like a porn star. He wants me to get massive, fake boobs, pouty lips and an enormous bottom. He thinks I should start wearing very high heels and skimpy outfits. He’s offered to go through my wardrobe and throw out all the ‘boring stuff’.

He knows I could re-mortgage my flat to pay for beauty procedures. He says I should ‘invest’ in myself with big white teeth and a tiny nose. He hints that if I don’t take myself in hand and update my look, then he’ll trade me in for a younger model. But I don’t want to look like a bimbo. How dare he?

JANE SAYS: I suggest you show this joker the door sooner than later. You describe him as a new boyfriend yet all he wants to do is dominate and change you. Where is the love? Where is the respect or the concern for your safety? Any kind of cosmetic procedure carries risks. If you (stupidly) remortgage your home for plastic surgery then you risk pain, debt and the complete obliteration of your own looks and personality. This man is testing you and you cannot allow him to get under your skin…

Suggest he finds a new lover while you congratulate yourself on a getting away from a master manipulator and control freak.

Stiff competition

I’m having sex with a friend of my mum’s. I’m 29 and she’s in her fifties. She has a big house, and I’ve been helping her with decorating and gardening.

Sex with her is extremely satisfying. She does yoga and has amazing stamina and style.

I know she’s older, but we just click. I’m aware that she’s seeing another guy too and I’m jealous.

How do I make her understand that I’m serious about wanting an exclusive relationship?

JANE SAYS: You clearly have strong feelings for this extraordinary woman, but I do ask that you protect your heart. As I understand it, you’re spending your days helping her around her large house – and enjoying passion into the mix – but she’s a woman who knows her own mind and makes her own rules. She’s fully entitled to sleep with anyone she fancies. If she wants to romp with another guy as well as you, then that’s up to her. If you feel humiliated and hurt in the process, then that’s not good for your wellbeing.

I think you’d be much better off finding someone, completely available, who is interested in having fun and building a future with just you. What does your mum think of the current arrangement?

Distraction techniques

I work from home. A friend keeps coming round here to keep me company, but she stops me from getting on with my tasks. She’s very chatty and expects to be fed and entertained. I realise that she’s bored and I feel sorry for her, but I need her to give me some peace. How do I relay that?

JANE SAYS: The reality is that you’re trying to earn a living from home. You need to be successful and productive to get paid, cover your bills and survive. I suggest you level your friend. Explain that you’re under pressure and need to get on. No hard feelings but your home is not a social club. Don’t feel guilty about being a professional. Encourage her to fulfil her own potential.