‘Horny new girlfriend desires intercourse 4 occasions a day – it is like I’m a hostage’
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Taken hostage
I only met my girl in February, but she’s already moved in – and is talking mortgages, marriage and honeymoons. I like her but she’s moving too fast. Our sex life is energetic and hot. She jumps on me for sex three and four times a day but I’m terrified that she’s deliberately trying to get pregnant.
Recently she mentioned baby names, and I asked her to slow down. With that she bit my head off. She said that if I wasn’t serious about her then she’d find someone who was.
I explained that I do love her but worry that we aren’t giving ourselves enough time. With that she charged out the door, and I had to beg her to come back. I sometimes I feel as though I’ve been taken hostage, especially when she calls and texts me all day long. Help.
JANE SAYS: Your girl is intense and demanding. I strongly urge you to be careful about how you proceed from here on. Stand your ground. You need to tell her that everything has to change if you’re to stay together, otherwise you’re going to be swallowed whole – and not in a good way.
Insist she slows down and agrees to take one day at a time. Keep your head and trust your instincts. Always insist on using a condom every time you have sex. And, if you genuinely believe that she’s trouble on a stick, then get the heck out of there.
Hard times
My family won’t allow me to live my own life. I have a wonderful new partner, whom I’ve checked out and trust, but my mum thinks I should care for her while my siblings have branded him a crook.
They all say that I’m selfish for wanting a new life. My youngest, 22, believes that I’m washed up and good for nothing except running around after him. All are very rude to my guy’s face.
Why do they have to make my life so hard?
JANE SAYS: Your new man isn’t made of stone. He has his pride and his feelings. If your family continue being rude to him, then it’s almost inevitable that he’s going to lose interest in your relationship.
If you’re satisfied that he’s trustworthy, honest and true, then grab this shot at happiness with both hands. Your youngest is 22, a fully grown adult. Your siblings sound jealous and your mother is selfish.
Don’t allow them to make you feel bad. Be bold and tell your lover that you’re ready to embark on a whole new adventure. The problem is that if you hold back and fail to seize the day, then you could end up deeply regretting allowing a good one to slip away.
One is fun
My boyfriend likes lots of lovers in his life – both male and female. He swears that he always practises safe sex (i.e. with a condom) and urges me to live my life to the full too. He wouldn’t care if I went out and bedded six strangers tomorrow.
Only I’m a unashamed one guy woman and he’s all I need in a partner. How do I turn this thing around?
JANE SAYS: If you’re looking for exclusivity and your guy has expressly told you he’s not interested in being tied down, then you’re barking up the wrong tree.
I get the impression that you’re in awe of him, but there are plenty of others out there who would be happy to slip into a committed relationship with you.
Don’t sell yourself short.
