‘Chaotic girlfriend went off for a threesome with married couple the second I regarded away’

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Wind up merchant

My girlfriend is a disrupter.

She drinks too much and she shoplifts. She deliberately winds people up and doesn’t care.

A while ago she got off with one of my mates right in front of me. She was determined to see how I’d react and was hugely turned on when I went nuts. Once, we were on holiday in Spain. I went to buy some drinks and by the time I’d got back to our table, she’d gone up to our room with a married couple for a threesome.

In the years we’ve been together she’s got me to give her thousands of pounds and lie to everyone from her family to her boss. At the moment she’s desperate to make me jealous. She’s playing around with an ex-boyfriend. She’s staying out late and coming in stinking of his aftershave.

Why does she have to make life so complicated?

JANE SAYS: Being with someone this tricky must be exhausting. Why do you continue to hang out with your girlfriend when she’s so provocative and unpleasant? You sound thoroughly fed up with this whole charade.

Tell her today that you’ve had enough. You won’t play her silly, attention-seeking games anymore, because they’re pathetic and bringing you down. From conning you out of money and getting you to lie for her to deliberately messing around with other people; the girl is on another level of unpleasantness.

Surely you deserve to get your life back and move forward unburden by her nonsense?

Bit of rough

I thought my ex-boyfriend was joking when he made fun of my background and accent.

I assumed he was having a laugh. Now he’s dumped me for a posh woman he used to work with. He’s telling people that I was nothing but his ‘bit of rough’ and I feel worthless. His friends and family always used to be nice to me. Was everything a lie?

Am I really a loser in their eyes?

JANE SAYS: You have to rise above this provocation and remember that this is your EX-boyfriend you’re fretting about. He’s moved on and is no longer relevant. If he and his family are a bunch of fakes, then that’s very sad, but as you no longer see them, none of that matters.

Remember that you are just as good, if not better, than the next person. Never forget that you are decent, honest and true.

Slap in the face

My girl and I have been together for about a year. Two months ago, her best mate lost her job and asked if she could sleep on our sofa. I was cool with that as I like the girl and she pays her way.

But the other night I woke up alone. I crept into the front room, and they were naked and going for it. What does this mean?

JANE SAYS: Having sex with another girl is cheating too. You need to tell your partner how upset you are. Would she like to catch YOU having sex with a mate in your own home?

Maybe she needs to decide who she likes best. Whatever happens, the mate must go; she’s betrayed your trust and thrown your help back in your face.