Wife warned hubby’s social media behavior is purple flag – and will imply he is a cheat
A woman has sought advice online after confessing her husband ‘refuses to acknowledge’ their marriage on social media.
The wife turned to Reddit to get the opinions of others after admitting she was left feeling upset over the situation. She revealed she and her husband had been married for several years.
However, despite his active presence on social media, he never posts anything online about her.
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Posting on the site, she shared:”My husband and I have been married for four years, together about eight. It hasn’t always gone smoothly, to be expected we got married pretty young. High school sweethearts or whatever.
“Recently I’ve noticed that he posts about his time in the military, his car, the places he’s been to (sometimes)… but never even a hint of being married. Maybe he did before… I can’t remember.”
The woman went on:”Anyways, this made me frustrated… and I’m petty. So I made my status on Facebook single to see if he’d notice, and admittedly to get a rise out of him. I should clarify, I’m not really active, so I know people don’t really pay attention to my posts, besides my Facebook is strictly for family.
“He pointed it out and refused to like anything I posted afterwards. I told him if he wanted me to not seem single online, then he shouldn’t either (I know this sounds childish, bare with me here). It was only up for a day then I [changed] it.
“Today I added that I was married and asked him to do the same. He said: ‘No I’m not doing that. I don’t want to put that information out for China to find out.'”
The wife was livid, reminding her husband that he already shares a lot of information on Facebook and questioned who he was ‘hiding his marriage from’. Despite this, her husband still refused to post about their marriage online.
The wife then disclosed more details, revealing she’d snooped through her husband’s phone and discovered his ex-girlfriend had been in touch.
She continued: “Recently I went through his phone and saw he was in contact with his ex-girlfriend from middle school. This girl used to be my best friend growing up – she’s how we met. They broke up in middle school and after a few weeks, broke up but stayed friends.
“For months afterwards, she tried to hook me up with him, but even as a kid I thought that was weird. But he spent three years trying to woo me, so I gave him a chance and we dated on and off in high school.
“This made my friend so mad and it was part of the reason we fell off. Fast forward to now, I heard about her talking sh*t about me through the years… but just brushed it off since she was dismissive of me when I tried to reconcile with her a few years back.”
Despite not wanting to be pals with her, the woman revealed her ex-bestie had been chatting up her husband while he was serving abroad and their marriage hit a rocky patch. She said: “They spoke about the old days and how much they loved each other and missed each other and how they would see each other when ever he was in town again.”
The wife confessed she was gutted finding out her man was ‘fraternising with the enemy’.
Wrapping up her tale of woe, she said: “So, do you see my dilemma here, I don’t know what to do. Other than social media, we are good. He is kind and respectful and gives me all the princess treatment… but this makes me feel like I should be worried? I need some input please.”
“So, do you see my dilemma here, I don’t know what to do. Other than social media, we are good. He is kind and respectful and gives me all the princess treatment… but this makes me feel like I should be worried? I need some input please.”
Since being shared on Reddit, the post has made its way over to X (formerly Twitter), where someone wrote: “He doesn’t want his marriage to interfere in his dating game.”
The X post has since gone viral and many were quick to have their say as people called the husband a “red flag”.
One person warned: “That’s one long red flag factory of a post. Also, DON’T MARRY YOUR HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEART!!!!! Yes, sometimes it works out, but the majority of AITA posts about bad marriages include some variation of the phrase ‘we got married really young’.”
Meanwhile someone else agreed, writing: “He doesn’t have his marriage status on social media because he doesn’t want potential partners to know he’s not single. This is a RED FLAG girl!”
A third also concurred, saying: “Yeah, he’s trying to date.” While a fourth chimed in: “Oh he’s definitely cheating or trying to cheat.
