Relationships can be complicated, especially when it comes to intimacy.
People have different tastes, wants and desires – so it can be tough when you don’t talk about it. One woman, who describes herself as “sexually expressive”, is having issues connecting with her partner.
She’s been with her fiancé for four years, and is set to get married during the autumn. The only issue is he doesn’t seem to want to have sex with her.
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Even though people would never expect it of her, the anonymous woman said she’s a “lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets”, but she’s had to give up this part of herself with her fiancé.
It’s assumed all couples have sex, but this is far from the case for this woman. She turned to Reddit for advice, as she’s been really struggling with repressing her feelings.
She just wants to be able to express herself, and indulge in a little fun time with the one she loves.
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In an open post, she wrote: “He has a fear of intimacy, no desire for it, performance problems and so on. He… doesn’t even masturbate or watch porn as much, as I encourage him to, so he can figure out what he likes.
“It’s been the core of our relationship issues since we started dating.”
Even though things are rather dismal in the bedroom, she doesn’t want to give her partner up. She said she loves “absolutely everything” about him, even though her sex life is far from what she wants.
He has a “kind soul” and a “big heart” but, as the wedding is approaching, she’s starting to realise her sexual side is a big part of who she is. She’s worried about it slipping away.
“I’ve sacrificed a part of who I am for years,” she added. “I thought maybe after a year or two it would subside, but it hasn’t.
“We go three to eight months without being intimate and it’s hurting me so bad. We’ve tried therapy, medication, scheduled times, everything but nothing works.”
She also dubbed her hubby-to-be as “vanilla”, adding: “When we get the opportunity it’s like we just get it done, quick in missionary, before it goes away for him, which I’m happy to do to make him happy and confident.
“He even admits he’s vanilla. Since we started dating I first asked him about swinging, because that’s my kink level and that was shot down.
“I’m just at the point where I don’t know what to do anymore and it’s affecting me so much emotionally and physically.”
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