JLo’s buddies ‘fed up of her’ as Ben’s ‘trick’ is revealed

Jennifer Lopez‘s own friends have suggested the actress needs to ‘look inside herself’ after she filed for divorce from Ben Affleck, ending her fourth marriage.

Those close to the superstar singer and actress are growing tired of her chaotic life following the announcement Bennifer are over, a source told DailyMail.com 

The insider said: ‘After four failed marriages, her friends feel that she should take a look inside and focus on herself instead of what others want her to be and finally figure out who she is and what she wants from her future.’

Lopez, 55, filed for divorce without an attorney Tuesday – on the second anniversary of her stunning Georgia wedding ceremony to Affleck, 52. She listed the date of separation as April 26 this year.

But the source told DailyMail.com that the star isn’t the only one capable of playing mind games.

Explaining Affleck’s take-the-high-road approach, the insider said: ‘Jennifer said she was tired of being humiliated by Ben and she waited until the two year anniversary because she wanted to sting.

‘But it did not sting him. He’s been done for a long time and deep down she knows this. He let her have this so that she wouldn’t look like the villain.’

DailyMail.com approached representatives for both Affleck and Lopez about the claims. 

Without a prenup in place, their individual earnings from the last two years, whether it be from film projects or major brand deals, would be community property.

Jennifer, who has a reported $400million net worth, has put out four films since marrying Ben, including her $20million self-funded project This Is Me… Now: A Love Story, which documents the couple’s rekindled romance.

She launched her Delola cocktail line in 2023 and she was set to embark on a world tour in support of her latest album ‘This Is Me… Now’ but it was canceled weeks before kick off so she could ‘focus’ on family.

Oscar-winner Ben, who has a reported net worth of $150million, has recently starred in the films Air (2023) and Hypnotic (2023). He also recently wrapped production of a sequel to 2016’s The Accountant.

To further complicate things, Jennifer and Ben worked on the upcoming film, Unstoppable. 

While Affleck is producing the project alongside Matt Damon, Lopez is among the film’s stars.

According to TMZ, Jennifer is not seeking spousal support and has asked the judge to deny it for Ben as well.

It’s claimed that Jennifer’s divorce filing comes amid her and Ben’s unresolved battle over money.

According to insiders, the exes have been embroiled in tense settlement talks for months. At times, Jennifer and Ben have stopped speaking to one another entirely.

The couple listed their $68 million Beverly Hills marital home in May — one year after purchasing it for $60million.

After failing to sell it off market, they publicly listed the sprawling property in June.

Days after Jennifer’s 55th birthday in July, Ben closed escrow on a new $20.5million bachelor pad in the Pacific Palisades.

A source recently told Us Weekly that the star’s decision to purchase the abode ‘was the closure of the relationship.’

Meanwhile, Jennifer is still on the hunt for a new LA home and looking for a ‘fresh start,’ as reported by PEOPLE.

News of Jennifer’s divorce filing comes after DailyMail.com exclusively revealed that documents had been ‘finalized, but not yet turned in.’

The couple have not been pictured publicly together since June 2 but Jennifer was seen leaving his $100,000-per-month Brentwood rental home last week.

She was visiting him on his 52nd birthday along with his ex-wife Jennifer Garner, 51, and children.

He was notably absent from Jennifer’s lavish Bridgerton-themed 55th birthday celebration in The Hamptons in late July.

Amid the divorce speculation, both Ben and Jen were frequently spotted wearing their wedding bands in public.

Earlier this month, a source told Page Six that Jennifer was ‘furious’ with Ben and that she was ‘humiliated’ by the split.

‘He’s humiliated her because she made a big deal that he’s the love of her life. They just had two weddings two years ago,’ they dished.

‘This is some kind of a record, they’re not young kids,’ the insider explained to Page Six that Lopez is also angry due to their children being involved in the split.

Lopez has formed a close bond with Affleck’s three children with ex-wife Jennifer Garner — Violet, 18, Fin, 15, and Samuel, 12 — and has continued to spend time with them amid the split.

Lopez has 16-year-old twins Max and Emme with ex-husband Marc Anthony, 55, who have also grown close to Ben in the last two years.

‘There are five kids involved in this. She knew they were going to blend families. She has not fully accepted it is over,’ the source continued.

Jennifer and Ben’s love story dates back to 2002 when they met on set of the box office bomb Gigli. ‘Bennifer’ quickly became a Hollywood ‘It couple.’

But their whirlwind romance came to an end in early 2004, when she and the Armageddon star abruptly called off their engagement.

After 17 years apart and two failed marriages, Ben and Jennifer rekindled their romance in May 2021.

The couple then married in a Las Vegas ceremony at A Little White Wedding Chapel in July 2022.

A month later, they had a much grander wedding at Affleck´s house in Georgia, in front of friends and family.

Lopez, 55, had been married three times before. She was briefly married to Ojani Noa from 1997-1998 and to Cris Judd from 2001-2003. 

She and singer Marc Anthony were married for a decade, having wed in 2004, and share 14-year-old twins. 

She started dating former baseball player Alex Rodriguez in 2017, but the couple called off their engagement in 2021.

Jennifer and Ben were spotted on a number of public outings together, including their very last one on June 2, after they had already decided to go their separate ways two months earlier.

At the time, they were seen greeting each other warmly, even appearing to give each other a kiss, as they attended Affleck’s 12-year-old son Samuel’s basketball game in Santa Monica.

Lopez and Affleck also appeared to be in high spirits while leaving together even though, as it is now revealed, they had already secretly called it off on April 26.

The couple first sparked separation rumors when they had gone 47 days without being seen together. 

Split speculation continued as they did not spend a number of holidays over the summer together and Lopez also walked the red carpet alone at the Met Gala in May — which was also when Lopez called off her world tour ‘to be with her family.’ 

Since then, the pair have been spending summers on opposite coasts and did not spend their anniversary together.

In recent months, however, the pair have been spotted out together on a handful of occasions — but notably all were when Affleck’s kids were present — as they had reportedly been trying to rekindle their romance. 

After being noticed without their wedding rings on several outings, they also started making it apparent that they were once again wearing their tokens of commitment. 

Lopez was even seen paying Affleck a special visit on his birthday at his rental property in Brentwood, California.

The shocking divorce filing comes after they were seen stepping out together — and even occasionally putting on PDA several times — in an effort to maintain that they were reconciling in spite of being incessantly hounded by rumors of marital strife.

However, the public was largely unaware that they had already separated in secrecy on April 26, which is listed as their official date of separation on Lopez’s divorce filing.

In the weeks prior to their secret split, the pair had been putting on PDA during their outings in late March and being very affectionate while house hunting together in New York City.

After celebrating Easter together in Brooklyn, Affleck returned to California to film The Accountant 2.

In the following weeks, Lopez spend a majority of her time in New York City, but it appears that’s when the cracks started showing in their marriage as they would not be pictured together for over a month.

Just days prior to their secret split in mid-April, Lopez met up with Affleck’s best friend and business partner Matt Damon and his wife. 

In the following weeks, Affleck skipped out on a number of his wife’s gigs in May including the premiere of her Netflix movie Atlas as well as her major role as a co-chair at the Met Gala. 

After sparking speculation of turmoil in their marriage and spending 47 days apart, they seemingly started to make a show of unity and going on public outings together. 

On May 16, the couple finally reunited at Affleck’s second child Fin’s recital in Los Angeles; and in the following days, they were seen together again at another family event, during which Affleck revealed he still had her saved in his phone as ‘Jennifer Affleck’ alongside a sexy contact photo.

Two weeks later, they were spotted arriving at Affleck’s eldest daughter Violet’s graduation party together, but there was a noticeable sense of tension.

Just the following day, they put on a rare display of PDA and were spotted holding hands while attending Violet’s high school graduation.

They were also spotted, seemingly in good spirits, at Affleck’s son Samuel’s basketball game in Santa Monica on June 2 — which was the last day they were pictured together in public. 

Even though it appeared as if they had reconciled, it appears they were maintaining a pretense as they hired a realtor to put their marital home up for sale just a week later. 

Around the same time, it was reported that Affleck had already moved out of their mansion, which they purchased together just a year ago after a two-year hunt for their ‘dream home.’

Perhaps not for any reason besides to work out divvying up their assets, Lopez was seen paying Affleck a visit at his Brentwood rental home on June 15.

She even wished him a happy Father’s Day on social media the following day, calling him a ‘hero,’ even though he opted to spend the holiday with his ex-wife, Jennifer Garner.

Afterwards, Lopez attempted to shake off the heartache as she ventured on a solo jaunt across Europe in late June — even recreating her very PDA-filled 2021 holiday with her estranged husband and dining at the same restaurant where they shared heated kisses.

Meanwhile, he was in Los Angeles and going on outings without his wedding ring on his finger.

In early July, it was reported that Affleck had started moving out the rest of his belongings from their shared home and they began the process of selling their artwork in the $60 million mansion.

In the following weeks, the couple spent the majority of their summer and even Fourth of July on separate coasts with Affleck in Los Angeles and Lopez in the Hamptons.

As they spent miles apart, both literally and figuratively, it was reported that their kids were working behind the scenes to try to get them back together ahead of Lopez’s 55th birthday. 

However, their efforts would seemingly prove futile in the end as Lopez made a bold statement by replacing her ‘Ben’ necklace with her own name during one of her Hamptons outings to the gym in July.

During that excursion on July 19, however, she still kept her wedding ring on, and it was reported that the pair were secretly working on reconciling their romance.

It was reported that the pair were writing love letters, ones they intended to keep private this time, as that was how their romance began initially.

However, it was then when it seemingly fell apart again when Affleck ‘humiliated’ Lopez on her birthday by not only skipping out on her lavish celebration in the Hamptons but also choosing that day to sign the deed to his bachelor pad.

Afterwards, sources revealed that they had finalized their divorce papers but Affleck was putting it off on filing. 

In the following weeks, the Jenny from the Block singer continued to wear her wedding ring — even once moving it to her other hand and removing the wedding band but still wearing it— and was seemingly not giving up hope completely.

After her birthday on July 24, they had not been seen together in public for 52 days; and August 2 marked two sad months of the pair not having been pictured together.

After it was reported that the pair had stopped talking to each other on August 5, the pair seemingly tried to remedy that.

On August 12, Lopez went shopping with Affleck’s son Samuel and was reportedly a surprise visitor as she went inside while dropping him off.

Three days later, she quietly visited Affleck’s rental home for a brief appearance at his intimate birthday party — which also included Garner and their three kids. 

However, she spent the rest of the night with her girlfriends at a Bruno Mars concert.

And less than a week later, she made their split official as she finally filed for divorce by herself, without an attorney — while Affleck was traveling back to Los Angeles with Garner after moving their daughter Violet into college. 

After Ben and his ex-wife Jennifer dropped off their daughter at college, the former couple’s child Fin appeared to confirm that their sibling Violet was attending Yale University, after they were spotted wearing a sweatshirt from the famous institution.

Following news that the couple had officially filed for divorce, fans rushed to social media to share their thoughts.

Posts to X, formerly known as Twitter, included: ”Filling for divorce on your wedding anniversary is crazy; It lasted longer than I thought. Is she already engaged to someone else?’ 

‘I am wondering if she is the problem, 4 divorces + others big names breakups,’ another fan tweeted, referring to Jlo’s long list of A-list lovers. 

Another posted, ‘Maybe she should just take a little bit of time and focus on herself.’

Yet another shared, ‘Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck are getting a divorce. I bet Ben is so happy that he can now be miserable in peace, meanwhile JLo will have a new love interest by Labor Day. She cannot be a single woman for long.’

On the day that Jennifer and Ben’s marriage ended, the actress was spotted leaving The Whitman, a luxury boutique condominium that overlooks Manhattan – while on a solo trip to her native NYC.

Without a prenup in place, Jennifer and Ben’s individual earnings from the last two years — whether it be from film projects or major brand deals — are community property.

One major asset the estranged couple will need to agree on is a $60.85 million home in Beverly Hills, California that they purchased last year. 

The former couple listed the home – which has 12 bedrooms and 24 bathrooms – in June for $65 million, then relisted it after making recent renovations for $68 million. 

The home in the tony Southern California neighborhood arrived last month of the market after further work was done on the abode, which took Lopez and Affleck two years to pick out. 

The mansion spans 38,000 square-feet, and state tax law might play a part in the increased price tag, as California taxes homes sold for a minimum of $10 million with a 5.5 percent charge, TMZ reported last month.

The listing on the abode had been held by The Agency, a real estate firm owned by Bravo personality Mauricio Umansky. 

Affleck moved out of the Beverly Hills home and has since plunked down $20.5 million on a mansion in the Pacific Palisades, California.

Both entertainers have worked steadily in the two years they have been wed: Affleck’s projects in that timespan include the 2023 movies Air (which he also directed) and Hypnotic, according to iMDb. 

Affleck also made appearances in 2023’s The Flash and 2024’s Jennifer Lopez in This Is Me… Now. He has finished shooting the The Accountant 2, in which he reprises the role of Christian Wolff from the 2016 motion picture.

Other acting projects he has in the works include a film called Witness for the Prosecution, which is in development; and a film titled RIP, which is in the pre-production phase.

Affleck has a number of professional endeavors he’s involved in as a producer, including projects such as the aforementioned The Accountant 2 and Witness for the Prosecution. He is listed as an executive producer on a TV movie called Thirst, a sports drama titled Flash Before the Bang and a Hugh Jackman movie titled Apostle Paul.

Other projects he is listed as a producer on include a film called Keeper of the Lost Cities, which he is slated to direct and star; and the film Animals, which he is slated to direct, which stars his longtime friend Matt Damon.

Two projects clearly complicated by Tuesday’s news are joint ventures he is involved in with Lopez: a musical adaptation of Kiss of the Spider Woman and Unstoppable, both of which she stars in.

Jennifer — who has a reported $400million net worth — has put out four films since marrying Ben, including her $20million self-funded project This Is Me… Now: A Love Story, which documents the couple’s rekindled romance.

She launched her Delola cocktail line in 2023 and she was set to embark on a world tour in support of her latest album This Is Me… Now this year but it was canceled weeks before kick off so she could ‘focus’ on family.

Oscar-winner Ben — who has a reported net worth of $150million — has starred in the films Air (2023) and Hypnotic (2023). He also recently wrapped production of a sequel to 2016’s The Accountant.pre

To further complicate things, Jennifer and Ben worked on the upcoming film, Unstoppable. While Affleck is producing the project alongside Matt Damon, Lopez is among the film’s stars.

In court docs, Lopez said she was waiving spousal support and requested the court not give Affleck any either, according to the outlet. 

It’s claimed that Jennifer’s divorce filing comes amid her and Ben’s unresolved battle over money.

Last month, The Blast reported Lopez had been ‘gearing up for a messy divorce’ and that she was aiming at acquiring half of the $150 million Affleck owns.

Lopez had paid many expenses during the two-year marriage, insiders told Radar Online in July, noting that Affleck had ‘grumbled about spending money.’

Sources told Radar Online that amid the parting, Lopez felt that Affleck had ‘mooched’ off of her wealth, and was subsequently ‘demanding a full inventory of what she spent versus what he spent and wants all the money back she “invested.”

‘She isn’t the one who gave up on their marriage and she’s feeling seriously burned and is out for blood.’

The insider noted that Lopez’s pursuit of financial recompense was in direct response to Affleck’s conduct amid the end of the relationship.

‘If he had stayed in the marriage like a good boy, she wouldn’t have minded,’ the source said. ‘But he abandoned her and ultimately, Jennifer always gets payback and now she’s ready to play hardball.’

According to TMZ insiders, the exes have been embroiled in tense settlement talks for months. At times, Jennifer and Ben have stopped speaking to one another entirely. 

The source noted to the outlet that ‘one of the little-known secrets is Jennifer paid for much of their marital expenses and now she feels he owes her’ – and is itemizing the expenses she laid out amid the relationship.

Said the source, ‘Ben took so much money out of her, at least that’s what she’s saying … she’s adding up all those private jet bills she puts on her plastic, the hotels, and meals, clothes, coffee runs, gas.

‘The high cost of living was done on her dime. She paid the lion’s share for that $60 million mansion they bought, too.’

According to a piece from the entertainment website Koi Moi earlier this year, the now-estranged pair had a cumulative net worth estimated at $640 million. 

Lopez is mother to twins Emme and Maximilian, 16, with ex-husband Marc Anthony, 55; while Affleck is father to children Violet, 18, Fin, 15, and Samuel, 12, with ex-wife Jennifer Garner, 52.

Affleck’s demeanor was cited as a reason for the split between the stars, who had famously dated two decades earlier.