Forget a ménage à trois, Brits’ biggest sexual fantasy is erotic roleplay, a survey suggests.
The poll of over 3,500 Brits suggests a third of the country is most interested in pursuing erotic roleplay with a partner.
Such scenarios included pretending to be strangers or exploring a ‘teacher/student’ dynamic according to the ‘Let’s Talk About Sex’ report, conducted by telehealth company Hims & Hers.
But other, more niche, sexual fetishes also featured with about one in 20 Brits interested in pursuing ‘objectphilia’.
This is where a person is interested in ‘engaging with a sexual or romantic relationship with an inanimate object’.
Conducted by telehealth company Hims & Hers health the poll of over 3,500 Brits suggest a third of the country is most interested in pursuing erotic roleplay with a partner. Stock image
The ‘inanimate object’, be it a sex toy or a lamp, preferred by those interested in pursing objectphilia wasn’t specified in the report.
While erotic roleplay reigned supreme with 32 per cent of Brits surveyed interested in titillating fictional scenarios, coming in second place was pursuing a ‘dom and sub relationship’ at 17 per cent.
Dom and sub stand for dominant and submissive respectively and is a relationship where one person has consensually agreed power over the other.
This was closely followed by sexual voyeurism, the act of observing others engaged in sexual acts, at 16 per cent.
About one in six Brits (14 per cent) were interested in trying ‘dry dating’ which considered a ‘sex trend’ where people date without drinking alcohol or taking drugs.
A similar proportion of Brits (13 per cent) wanted a ‘sugar relationship’ where one partner offers financial rewards in exchange for companionship or intimacy.
Over one in 10 Brits (11 per cent) reported being interested in pegging — a sex act where a person uses a sex toy to have anal sex with another.
Other, more niche, sexual fetishes also featured, with about one in 20 Brits interested in pursuing ‘objectphilia’. This is where a person is interested in ‘engaging with a sexual or romantic relationship with an inanimate object’
The same proportion were interested in polyamory, which is the act of having multiple sexual partners without the goal of a relationship.
Whilst voyeurism was in the top three of Brits’ sexual fantasies the opposite side of the coin, exhibitionism, the act of being watched while undertaking a sexual activity, was less popular with only 10 per cent of people wanting to do this.
Cuckolding, a type of roleplay where an individual ‘forces’ their partner to watch them ‘cheat’, was also niche with only one in 10 Brits expressing a desire to pursue this fetish.
Similar to other fantasies listed, the survey did not detail which aspect Brits of this sex trend they were most interested in trying.
In addition to objectphilia, other rare fantasies included getting paid to supply sexy pics and videos on a platform like OnlyFans (9 per cent) and having a partner use their feet.
Overall, the survey found that when asked what would improve their sex lives, the majority of Brits didn’t answer more sex.
Some 67 per cent said trying a different kind of sex would improve their intimate relationship.
Commenting on the results, Dr Denise Asafu-Adjei, a urologist at Hims & Hers said: ‘People have become more curious. They’re doing a lot more than we are taking stock of.’
Another aspect of the report looked at how much sex Brits were having in different parts of the country.
Nationally 55 per cent of Brits reported having sex at least one a week; 59 per cent of men and 51 per cent of women.
Londoners were far above the national average, with 67 per cent reporting enjoying an amorous encounter at least once a week.
This was followed by those in the North West (57 per cent) and lovers in the East Midlands (56 per cent).
Nationally 55 per cent of Brits reported having sex at least one a week, this rising to 59 per cent of men and falling to 51 per cent of women
Northern Ireland was on the opposite end of the spectrum with less than half (44 per cent) of people reporting having weekly sex.
This was followed by Wales and the East of England where residents came joint second last place at just 49 per cent.
However, the survey also revealed that Brits suspect far more of us are having sex than we actually are.
Respondents were asked what proportion of Brits they thought had sex at least one a week and the average was 81 per cent, 26 percentage points higher than the reality.
Dr Asafu-Adjei said it was critical to remember there wasn’t a ‘normal’ amount of sex people should aim for.
‘It’s hard to convince people that there truly isn’t a standard sex life,’ she said.
‘There is a spectrum and I feel like people have a false sense (that there is a number). It’s really different for everyone.’