- The unnamed woman took to Reddit to describe the situation
- She said her ex was in charge of watching their kids on Christmas this year
- But one day before, he broke the news that he wouldn’t be celebrating
A mom has revealed that her ex-husband decided to stop celebrating Christmas with their children, and didn’t tell them until the day before.
The unnamed woman took to Reddit to detail the situation, explaining that she and her former spouse had eruptedinto a fierce debate after he refused to do anything for the holidays.
In a thread titled, Parenting, the mom noted that she and her spouse had been separated for a few years and switched off who got the kids for the holidays each year.
She explained that this year was her husband’s turn to handle the holiday, which included forking over money on the children’s presents.
However, on Christmas Eve, she was stunned to discover that her husband didn’t even have a tree in his house.
When she called her ex-spouse, he revealed that he had made the decision to stop participating in Christmas.
The mom shared her frustrations online, as she explained that after a series of hardships over the past year, she wouldn’t be able to give her children the Christmas they deserved, especially with such short notice.
‘Kid’s father waited until this morning to inform me he “isn’t doing Christmas”‘, she titled the post.
A mom has revealed that her ex-husband decided to stop celebrating Christmas with their children, and didn’t tell them until the day before (stock image)
The mom wrote: ‘My kids father and I have been separated for a couple of years.
‘Typically on holidays we swap and the person who has the kids does the big stuff and the other does what they feel and either celebrates before the kids leave or after they get back.
‘This year was his year to get the kids. I lost my job due to layoffs end of October and it’s been a bit rough.
‘He isn’t on child support and I’ve been just barely making it in my household. I can’t lie like I wasn’t relieved it was his year to do Christmas because I had no idea how I would afford it.’
She explained that she was thankful it was her husband’s turn to have the kids over the holidays because she couldn’t afford to gift them anything.
However, her relief turned into frustration when she discovered that her ex-lover had decided to be a Grinch this year.
‘The kids went to his house yesterday. I was shocked when my daughter told me he had no tree on our phone call last night,’ she continued.
‘This snowballed into my conversation with him when I asked what’s up with no tree for the kids.
The unnamed woman took to Reddit to detail the situation, explaining that she and her former spouse had eruptedinto a fierce debate after he refused to do anything for the holidays
‘To my horror, he replied that he decided they were no longer going to celebrate Christmas. Like what?
‘This isn’t something you just spring on someone. Had he told me this last month or even a few weeks ago I could have made something work.
‘An angel tree or toy drive whatever I had to do to make sure my kids felt the holiday spirit.’
The mom said she felt horrible knowing her children weren’t going to have any presents this year.
She explained that she had been ‘frantically’ trying to find a solution to her problem, and confessed that she felt like she ‘failed’ her children.
The mom added: ‘I didn’t sleep last night. I’ve been trying to frantically figure something out but I’m no contact with my family and live three states away from them anyway so I don’t have much of a support system.
‘His family all lives here and have been supportive so I stayed in the area because this is what they know.
‘I tried calling his parents but they haven’t returned my calls, I’m sure he informed them of my feelings.
People on the web flooded the comment section and expressed their shock at the situation
‘I’m on unemployment and have $45 to my name until next week which I plan to use for groceries. I feel like a total failure.
‘I’m so upset and mad for my kids. How does an adult justify this!!? He’s acting like it’s no big deal and they’re kids they won’t remember this.
‘He always uses that excuse like they’re incompetent or something. They are five and seven and very well aware of what is going on and what the hell Christmas is since they’ve celebrated every year.’
People on the web flooded the comment section and expressed their shock at the situation.
One person said: ‘I’m sorry this got sprung on you, and at a terrible time too. Don’t try to fix it while they’re at their dad’s. You can’t cover for him.’
Another user added: ‘Don’t fix his problems. Kids will be disappointed and remember this about him, rightfully so. Also, get a formal child support order.’
Someone else wrote: ‘Can you give them some kind of experience instead of gifts? A Christmas hike, or a road trip to check out something interesting? That kind of thing is usually more memorable than presents.’
‘Nothing. You do nothing. This is not your problem to deal with. When your kids get home, do your planned celebration,’ another person commented.