JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who struggles to keep up with her highly sexed man
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I don’t need this pressure on
My boyfriend insists he needs two orgasms a day to function and feel normal. I find this too much to deal with. We’ve been together for a year, and you could say that we are coming out of our ‘honeymoon period’.
Of course, when we were first got together, we were at it like rabbits, but my energy levels aren’t what they were. I’ve just started a very challenging job, and my sister relies on me to help out with her new baby.
I love sex and have no intention of neglecting my guy in the bedroom. But this ‘two climax’ rule is stressing me out because I’m terrified, he’ll stray if I can’t satisfy him.
JANE SAYS: Who is your boyfriend to impose rules? Surely your relationship should be mutually respectful and flexible. If you don’t want to have intercourse twice a day or pleasure him in another way, then that’s your call.
He should respect your position. It worries me that you’re so concerned about him straying. You must talk about this. Life is stressful enough without fearing he’ll go off with someone else. It’s sometimes the case in relationships that one partner wants more sex than the other, but these issues need to be talked about and compromises found.
Make it clear that you are a person in your own right not simply his sexual facilitator.
Gift horse
My mother-in-law insults us every Christmas with her tatty gifts and cheap contributions to our festive meals. She turns up with useless gifts and out of date food – and expects us to be grateful.
Last year she was asked to bring cheese and crackers, but she ‘forgot’. Instead, we got rotten fruit and wilting vegetables. I ended up throwing it all away.
She has significant savings. She gives her son regular cash injections, yet we’re treated like a joke.
How do I stop myself from blowing my top when I secretly wonder if she gets a kick out of winding me up?
JANE SAYS: Hold your nerve and get through this Christmas the best you can. Then, on December 31st make it clear that next year will be different.
Politely explain that you have enough ‘stuff’ and won’t need any more presents from her in future. As for the rotten food, maybe a simple box of chocolates will do.
Also make a point of talking to the rest of the family about shared responsibility. If you feel that you’re being unfairly lent on, then insist your husband and your brother-in-law take better care of her so that you get some time off and enjoy your Christmas holiday too.
Naughty but not nice
My girl is always putting me to the test. She has just announced that she fancies sex in a ‘naughty place’ – and it’s up to me to organise it.
She knows I hate my stepmother so thinks it would be hilarious to have sex in her and my Dad’s bed. I’m scared she’ll dump me if I don’t play ball.
JANE SAYS: Do not allow your girl to lead you by the nose into disaster. She might think she’s very funny and naughty, but she cannot be allowed to cause trouble within your family.
Stand up for yourself and tell her you refuse to be manipulated. It’s fun to have sex in different places as long as it’s safe, legal and respectful. Is she right for you?