Meet Lillith Lodge, who helps fulfill the desires and kinks of her clients, many of which are married men – The self-proclaimed escort exclusively opened up about her profession to the Daily Star
Escort Lillith Lodge talks to Daily Star about being a service worker
Many married men secretly spend a significant amount of money on sex workers to fulfil desires they feel too embarrassed or ashamed to ask their wives for. Self-proclaimed escort Lillith Lodge has exclusively opened up to the Daily Star about the taboo topic.
Lillith is a 29-year-old adult content creator and escort based in Brisbane, Australia. As I talk about sex, fetishes, and her profession, I wonder how she defines the term “escort”, a word that often paints ambiguous images.
I even directly ask her: “Is an escort a prostitute?” to which she happily admits: “I feel like there’s a lot of different terms used.
“I think escort is probably the most polite [term], and most of the sex work community, we prefer that word. However, I mean, I get called prostitute, hooker all the time and it’s not something that I personally take offense to.
“It’s not a word that offends me, but for a lot of the full service sex work community, they are very offended by the use of those words. It’s sort of seen as a bit of a slur or a derogatory term used towards us.
“For me personally, [I’m] unbothered, [I] really don’t care.” Nevertheless, Lillith did make the distinction with escorts, who typically charge high rates and can also “get booked” for “talking” and companionship rather than just intimate relations.
“I just don’t even think twice about it anymore”
“A lot of [of the time] it will be companionship, going to dinner, having a dinner in, you know, being a naked therapist, that kind of thing as well,” she said. “And I think that’s sort of where escort kind of comes into play, because we may actually be escorting them to a venue or to an event.”
Escorts are typically seen as high-end companions for wealthy clients, working in discreet settings and often able to choose who they see. In contrast, prostitutes are more likely to be associated with street work, seen as less exclusive.
Additionally, escorts often convey the impression that they have greater control over whom they choose to see as clients. Such is the case with Lillith, as she affirmed she chooses who she accepts as clients, and who she rejects.
Among those clients, Lillith frequently accepts requests from married men. Moreover, nearly half her clients are married men, many of whom spend thousands to seek the intimacy and excitement missing from their marriages.
“I just don’t even think twice about it anymore,” Lillith confessed. “I really don’t feel guilty or weird about it these days.”
She further said: “But I guess like anything, the more and more you do something and the more you’re exposed to something, it’s just going to get easier for you, I guess.” According to the adult model, the majority of married men she accepts as clients lack intimacy in their marital lives.
“Sometimes these guys will actually break down and start crying”
Lillith explained: “Some of these guys have come to see me and they’ve said, ‘I haven’t had sex with my wife in six months, a year’.
“I’ve even heard 10 years from one of the guys, which is just crazy. Like that’s a lot of time.
“Especially for the ones on the longer end of that time span, you know, five years, 10 years sort of thing. They’ve finally got to a breaking point where they’re like, ‘Well, I don’t even think I’m going to get it anymore’.
“So, ‘I kind of feel like I have to go and find it somewhere else’.” She continued: “And sometimes these guys will actually break down and start crying while they’re here about what they’re doing, which is quite hard to see and be around and see them just feel that much guilt, but also feel kind of like they’re backed into a corner when it’s been five or 10 years and they haven’t had sex.”
Lillith further suggested that a “lack of excitement” in the bedroom contributed to men coming to seek her services. Furthermore, Lillith would perform “kinks” that men would be too embarrassed to do with their partners, or in some cases, have their partner refuse them.
“They will come and see a professional so that they can get that itch scratched I guess you could say,” Lillith shared. Some fetishes are more common than others.
“I do feel like there is this big thing with withholding sex”
Lillith revealed: “A lot of domination stuff I do get booked for. Pegging, feet guys, sweat guys, armpit guys, there’s all kinds of unusual things I imagine having that conversation with your partner and being like, ‘I want to lick your sweaty armpits’, she’s going to be like, ‘Ew, what?’” Sex is still a taboo topic in 2025, Lillith agreed.
She said: “I think especially kinks, anything unusual outside of the super vanilla, I feel like we’re shunned for it, for liking unusual things. A lot of these guys have said, ‘Look, I tried to bring up the conversation and she immediately was disgusted or shut it down and I hadn’t even got to the main part yet and she was grossed out by the things I was saying before that’.
“They just feel like they can’t even speak about it. It’s quite sad because these people should be able to talk about what it is that they like.
“And it doesn’t mean the partner has to do that. If your partner comes to you and says, ‘I want to be pegged’, and you’re like, ‘I don’t want to peg a man’, that freaks me out’, or whatever the case is.
“She shouldn’t have to do it, but they should at least be able to have a conversation about it at the at the very least.” While she has rarely been contacted by wives of her married clients, Lillith said she generally avoids getting involved in any potential conflict.
Lillith further explained that while she tries to understand the reasons behind infidelity, she doesn’t automatically blame women if their partners cheat. She said: “I understand there are a lot of instances where men cheat that are not the woman’s fault, but I do feel like there is this big thing with withholding sex as well.
“Some people are just not meant to be monogamous”
“I do think both things exist at the same time in the world.” When I asked Lillith how she would react in a situation where she discovered one of her friends was being cheated on, she responded: “I think it would really depend on [the] situation with [the] partner.
“The thing is, most of my friends are non- monogamous or polyamorous because most of them are sex workers. So it’s not like that really ever comes up, them cheating, because of their relationship style.
“But in the context that you know one of them was with someone monogamously and I found out they were cheating. Of course we’d talk about it and I wouldn’t be like it’s your fault.
“But we would probably talk over it. I would probably ask, I’d be nosy and I’d be like, ‘When was the last time you had sex?’ Because I’d want more intel on what is going on to try to get to the bottom of it.”
According to Lillith, not everyone is “naturally” suited to monogamy. For the content creator, relationships exist on a spectrum, and it’s important to understand and nuance when it comes to issues of fidelity.
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