JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who has developed a huge crush on her friend’s fit fella
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My mind is tripping
I’ve become obsessed with my mate’s fella.
He’s fit and gorgeous.
He and I have never kissed or even touched yet I can’t stop imagining him naked on top of me.
Every time my own partner suggests sex, I fantasise about riding my friend’s bloke. The resulting orgasms are mind blowing. I’m also getting a huge buzz from the erotic dreams I have in my sleep and the filthy daydreams I enjoy during work. My mind is tripping! I keep finding excuses to visit my friend and her hunk.
The other night he came in the kitchen, in just his boxers, and I went bright red. I’m now obsessed with him – and I think he knows it – where do we go from here?
JANE SAYS: We all get unfathomable crushes from time-to-time.
It’s only natural to get turned on by an attractive individual, but you must accept that this man is not yours for the taking. Not only is he in a stable relationship, but so are you. Use your newfound sexual energy to inject some excitement into your own relationship. Make sex a priority with your partner; introduce some new positions or games and vow to have fun together. Don’t be tempted to think that this other guy is something special.
I fear that if you cross that line (and sleep with your crush), then nothing in any of your lives will be the same again – and not in a good way…
Fly away
My friend has used me. This time last year she was on her knees. Her boyfriend was acting up and stealing her money. One night he flipped out and she fled to us. I got her back on her feet again. Now she says she’s leaving the country.
She’s met a bloke on the Internet who has invited her to move to Portugal with him. I’ve warned her that he’s probably a crook, but she insists she’s going. What about me? She thinks nothing of leaving me in the lurch.
How is that fair?
JANE SAYS: You must accept that your friend is entitled to a new start. It would be wrong of you to try and hold her back after all she’s been through. Maybe this new guy IS another crook, but that’s for her to find out.
You took her in and helped her when she was down because you wanted to. You thought it was the right thing to do at the time. Now she’s got a chance to move on and she’s taking it. I realise that you’re upset but you must wish her well and then concentrate on your own life.
Mum says I’m selfish
I only fancy, and date, much older women. My current lady friend is 55 to my 35. I’m childless and my Mum complains that I’m selfishly depriving her of grandchildren by deliberately falling for post-menopausal females.
My lovers like me because I’ve got a lot of sexual energy.
JANE SAYS: Your mother may be frustrated with your choice of partners, but she can’t dictate. Maybe she would like grandchildren, but we don’t all get what we want.
Have a sit-down conversation with her and simply ask her to respect your decisions. The problem is that if she keeps on about your lifestyle, then she could end up pushing you away. Is that what she wants?
You’ve found what works for you.