If you have a problem that needs solving and you don’t know where to turn, look no further.
Every day, the Daily Star’s very own agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is on hand to tackle your issues and concerns with some straight-talking but sound advice.
From bedroom confessions to self-confidence issues , drug use and everything else, Jane has helped thousands of Daily Star readers over the years and isn’t slowing down.
If you want help, you can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Please note that Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published.
Strippers
My bride-to-be is personally supervising her hen weekend. She’s told her three bridesmaids that she wants a male ‘butler-in-the-buff’, alongside a male stripper. She’s demanding a pub crawl, lesbian sex show and axe throwing. She’s insisting the whole weekend is edgy, naughty and wild.
I just don’t think any of this is funny or right. Do you? Where did she get these ideas from in the first place?
I’m playing golf with my two brothers on the DAY of my ‘stag’. Then we’re going for a pint and a curry. I plan to be home by 9pm.
We’re marrying in July and I’m getting seriously cold feet.
JANE SAYS: Are you seeing your future wife in a new light? Do you like what you see?
There’s no denying that hen and stag parties are meant to be fun but if you don’t approve of your lover’s choices or worry that she’s not the girl for you – then now is the time to speak up. July is not that far away.
Does she even care about your opinion and what might the future hold? Why aren’t you both singing off the same hymn sheet? Discuss.
Sexual tension
Tell me why I shouldn’t have sex with a foxy colleague.
I can feel the passion and the sexual tension building between us. It would be so easy for us to have a filthy affair. She’s single and has made it clear to other workmates that I can visit her flat any time I like.
I daren’t even allow myself to talk to her for fear of crossing that line and descending into lust driven madness. The only thing stopping me is the fact that I’m married and have young kids. My wife is lovely but frazzled. Our domestic life is one constant round of sleepless nights, high bills and laundry. We don’t kiss and we don’t make love.
I look at the single guys at work who are having a great time and wonder why I continue to play the married game.
JANE SAYS: Stay strong and please don’t jeopardise your marriage or the security of your children for the sake of a mindless fling. I understand that watching the single guys around you is frustrating, but you have no way of knowing what is going on in their heads. For all you know, they could be jealous of your stable relationship and family life.
Keep away from your sexy colleague and channel your energy into your marriage.
Can you and your wife get family members to help while you spend some quality time together? Don’t forget that your children won’t be young forever and that life will get easier. You’re doing a great job – just hang on in there.
Potty mouth
My partner loves to get drunk and shock my friends. Recently were in the pub and he decided to talk about all the other women he fantasises about while having sex with me…
From Margaret Thatcher to Jessica Rabbit via Marilyn Monroe, he had the table in stitches with his descriptions, but I was left feeling like an idiot. I was kicking his ankles and giving him daggers, but he just wouldn’t shut up.
He ended by saying that he thinks about threesomes and orgies with other females to get turned on for me. What kind of creep am I sleeping with?
JANE SAYS: The reality is that lots of people do fantasise about other folk during sex. You are completely at liberty to dream about anyone you fancy. That’s no cheating. Your man isn’t a mind reader; he can’t know what’s racing through your imagination.
The brain is said to be our most important sex organ and keeping it stimulated is a must. You can’t control your partner’s mind, but you can have a word with him about your feelings and what he says in public. Where is the respect and the decency?