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Wild times
I’ve been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend AND my married boss for the past year. Now I’m pregnant and don’t know who the father is.
I suspect the baby is my boyfriend’s because I’ve slept with him the most, but my boss and I have had some pretty wild times in cheap hotels.
I fancied him the first time I set eyes on him.
I was in the office when he was shown round. Our eyes locked and I thought: “I’m gonna shag you” and I did. That was back in June, and we’ve been secretly bonking ever since. I’m terrified that, when the baby pops out, it will look exactly like him. I never thought I’d be able to get pregnant after a major operation in 2024.
JANE SAYS: It’s important that you try and calm down, live healthily and take care of yourself and your unborn baby. When your baby IS eventually born, then you can have a DNA test done to prove paternity – if you think that is the right thing to do. This is between you and your conscience.
Think about what is in the best interests of the child. It worries me that you’ve been conducting a secret affair with your boss for a whole year – what’s that about? Why have you felt the need to cheat on your boyfriend?
I can’t pretend that this isn’t a tricky situation but this is not the time to be worrying about a future where anything could happen…
Billy no mates
My ex-partner ran off with another woman in February and now I find myself out in the cold.
I don’t have a single invitation for the summer even though I know that there are things going in the neighbourhood.
I suspect my smug married friends don’t like the idea of a single female ogling their ugly husbands. I worked so hard to keep my last relationship together. I gave my ex money and forgave him for numerous affairs. He left me regardless.
How dare folk treat me like a social outcast when I’ve done nothing wrong?
JANE SAYS: Accept that you’ve outgrown your insecure old set. Your life has changed and it’s time to move on.
If anyone feels threatened by you and can’t see that you simply want friendship and companionship, then they’re not worth bothering with. Make your own plans and stick up two proverbial fingers to the lot of them.
You know that you tried your best with your unworthy ex and that you’re worth ten of him. If he couldn’t appreciate you, that’s his loss. This is a tough time, but you owe it to yourself to get back out there and grab life by the throat.
Fairy tales
My girlfriend of four months has a very vivid imagination. I can’t believe half the stuff she comes out with. The other night she started telling me a long story about seeing fairies at the bottom of the garden as a child. It was total rubbish.
She lives in a fantasy world. How do I deal with this?
JANE SAYS: Your girlfriend sounds a colourful character, but she is entitled to believe anything she likes. You’ve only been together for a few months and she’s already annoying you. Yet, who are you to rubbish her story?
Have you considered the fact that you’re just, not suited? It’s not for you to change her, crush her creativity and shut her down. Gently suggest that you both find more kindred spirits.