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Tightwad
I’m having sneaky sex on the cheap.
My lover is too terrified to spend money on me – in case his partner finds out about us.
Our relationship is conducted on the run. We bonk at parties, on the local common and in the back of his car.
I’m currently sharing a room in a flat share, so whenever my mate is out, he comes here, but it’s not ideal.
My lover has a good job and loads of money. What I want are luxury hotel rooms. I fancy gropes in hot tubs and romps on satin sheets. He could easily whisk me away. Only he’s not even prepared to withdraw cash for a night in a cheap B&B near me. Help.
JANE SAYS: This creep is not interested in soft beds and swanky rooms with you, because he can have all that at home with his established partner. What you give him is edgy, risky sex that makes him feel naughty and alive.
Are you happy with this role? Are you content to be groped and tossed aside for his satisfaction? I don’t think you should be. The fact is that this isn’t a healthy, equal relationship. This is a man in a long-term union who isn’t interested in investing or committing to you.
You’re his delicious secret, his bit on the side.
He’s simply cheap and mean. He’s using you.
Dump him before he breaks your spirit.
Nightmare affair
A pal I tried to help has taken my man. Six months ago, this woman came to me in tears. She explained that she was homeless after the break-up of an abusive relationship, I promised to help her.
I let her have our spare room and even set her up in a job with my ex-boss. One day I came home from work early only to find my fella giving her oral sex on the stairs. Two hours later they took their stuff and left. Obviously, I’ve tried to speak to my bloke, but he refuses to answer my texts.
JANE SAYS: If your ex-partner has taken up with your ex-friend, then forget about them and get on with your life.
You owe it to yourself to move on with as much dignity as you can muster. The tragedy is that you tried to do a nice thing; you tried to help a friend, but she threw your kindness back in your face. We win some we lose some, but what you can’t do is allow this experience to make you bitter.
Have a good cry, punch a few pillows and then determine to carry on, both older and wiser. Neither were worthy of you.
Tatty behaviour
My girlfriend has just returned from a hen week with three love bites and two new tattoos.
She pouts she got drunk a lot and can’t remember what went on. She assumes that we can simply carry on as usual, but how dare she treat me like this?
JANE SAYS: Your girlfriend obviously had a great time. But if you’re unhappy with the love bites – and who gave them to her – then tell her she’s over-stepped the mark. What is the truth because drink is never an excuse.
Is she willing to tell you what really went on or do you have to dig around? The reality is that the full story will inevitably come out in the end because it always does.