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Maybe baby
Six years ago, my partner cheated on me with a sexy female colleague. They used to bonk in the office after hours and once go so carried away with themselves that they broke the Managing Director’s desk.
Everything came crashing down when their antics were picked up on CCTV and both were forced to resign for gross misconduct.
Now she’s tracked him down and hinted that her young son is his child.
I feel totally humiliated especially as he’s always refused to have children with me.
The other day I attempted to question him, and he told me to mind my own business. But this IS my business.
I’m terrified that he’s going to start seeing his secret family behind my back. I have no power. What can I do?
JANE SAYS: Your partner needs to hear how upset and confused you are. Ask for the absolute truth about his lover and her child. If he is the father of the kiddie, then of course he should contribute financially and be an involved parent.
However, you also need to find out if he intends to resume his (sexual) relationship with the woman.
If your relationship is over, then you and he need to find a civilised way forward.
If your man is keen to start again (with you) then he’s got a lot of making up to do.
I understand that you feel trapped, but there is always somewhere else to go. Surely, it’s better to reclaim your life than be someone’s disrespected doormat?
Sitting pretty
I can’t get rid of a guy who has taken up residence in my home. A year ago, my friend asked if she could rent my box room. A couple of weeks later a guy moved in with her.
She explained that he was her new lover and that he’d be gone soon. Now she’s moved away – and he’s still here.
He’s nice enough but he doesn’t pay any rent.
My partner wants him out, but neither of us know how to approach him, as he’s got nowhere to go.
JANE SAYS: Your ‘lodger’ is riding his luck. His feet are firmly under your table, and you’re embarrassed about asking him to leave.
The truth is that he’s going to carry on stringing you along until you finally get tough. I know it’s always awkward confronting someone outright, but he must understand that you’re serious and that the free ride is over. Arrange to speak to him (along with your husband).
Give him a reasonable, but fixed, moving out date and insist that he starts making other plans. Warn him that you’re serious about this, because you all need to reset.
You could be earning a decent income from that spare room.
Sadly, if he still won’t shift, then you’ll have to speak to a solicitor or even the police.