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Spoil sport
My mate has been joining my boyfriend and I for threesomes for about two years. Now she’s told me that she doesn’t want to do it anymore. He’ll go mad. He’s got used to our horny set-up and I’m terrified that he’s going to dump me if she bales.
She says she feels used but she doesn’t have anything else in her life. My boyfriend believes we do her a favour by including her. I’ve spent the past week begging her to change her mind.
I fear the knock-on effect for me.
JANE SAYS: Tell your boyfriend that the situation has changed and move on. If he then decides that you must suffer because you’re no longer supplying the three-way fun he expects, then you need to rethink this relationship.
Why aren’t you enough for him? Why does someone else always have to be involved? I hate the idea of him going ‘mad’ – and you being afraid of that… Is this relationship healthy? Should you get out?
Remember that you are not his facilitator or his fixer.
I respect your friend for claiming her life back and being honest. She is an individual and entitled to live her own way. I bet she’s sick of your insufferable boyfriend ‘doing her a favour’.
With any luck she’ll now reclaim her confidence and fly.
Life’s a beach
I’m sick of an old friend looking down on me. She’s just back from working abroad and she’s laughing at my ‘sad little life’ in Britain. Apparently over there – in Florida – it was all beach parties and hot sex.
I get it – it was amazing – but she’s not there anymore, is she? She only got her foreign trip because she was sleeping with her ex-boss. It all went tits-up when his wife found out them sharing a condo and hauled him home.
Now she’s back, unemployed, and slagging me off. How dare she?
JANE SAYS: Sounds like your embarrassed friend is trying to put a brave face on a rather humiliating experience.
Florida may have been great but coming home, broke and discredited, must be hard.
You’ve indulged her for long enough, now it’s time to get tough. She needs to hear that life goes on. You have a home, job and family and this is where you function.
A beach-based lifestyle might have been idyllic, but the reality is that she didn’t hack it out there so it’s back to earth with a bang. She has no right to belittle what you have and what you do for a living. Gently tell her that you’re done with her fabulous stories.
She needs to buckle down to real life, get some work and start showing some respect.