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The Heat Is On
I’m having sex with my girlfriend and her mum…
The mum is amazing. She’s voluptuous and sassy. She oozes sex appeal and is fantastic in bed. I only stay with my girlfriend (her daughter) to gain access to the family home. The man of the house (the husband/father) works away. My mature lover tells me that she’s sick of him because he’s boring and unimaginative – she much prefers me, which makes my heart sing.
I find any excuse to go round to the house. Her saucy mum doesn’t like to wear clothes – especially not in the heat – and often walks around naked just to tease me and please me. We have a glass of wine; we flirt and chat before charging up to her bedroom for kinky sex.
The other day I turned up unannounced pretending to look for my phone (it was in my pocket).
My girlfriend was at work. Her mum poured me a large one and we sat in the kitchen. She told me that I looked good. She licked her lips and touched her breasts in an extremely provocative manner. Then she leant across and ran her finger up and down my leg. I nearly exploded with pleasure.
Within seconds we were back in the front room making passionate love on the sofa.
But then her daughter returned early and we flew apart. Fortunately, she went straight into the bathroom. It was a thrilling but very close shave. I’ve always had a thing for mature women. I lost my virginity at 16 to my mum’s best friend.
Is it worth me telling my girlfriend’s mum how I feel? She’s never mentioned divorcing her husband but, perhaps, if I throw my hat in the ring she might be tempted to ditch him. What do you think?
JANE SAYS: Forget it. If you have a thing for older women, then that’s fine. But you can’t keep sleeping with this particular older woman.
She’s your current girlfriend’s own mother and that means that she’s out of bounds.
I don’t care how much you fancy her, or she appears to like you back, you cannot take things any further. I understand that you feel drawn to her because she’s confident, sexy and something of a mystery, but if you and she were to get together full time then all hell would break loose. I can guarantee that your girlfriend would go spare and her relationship with her mother would be damaged forever.
That would be so cruel and unfair on your poor, unwitting girlfriend, who has done nothing to deserve any of this. As for the husband? Are you nuts?
I suspect he’d destroy you.
Basically, if you don’t have any love or respect for your girl, then bale out now. It’s wrong of you to keep hanging out at her house simply because you have a thing for her ma. Be the responsible adult and tell her today that you’re moving on.
Apologise for hurting her feelings but tell her that you don’t think this relationship is working for you. Then get out of there while you’re still in once piece. You’re playing with fire.
Cough up
My bloke won’t marry me unless I settle his debts. All £15,000 of them. If I don’t cough up, then our December wedding is off, and I’ll be left jilted and humiliated.
I had no idea about this. He knows I have savings put aside for a rainy day and insists that rainy day is now. Is it?
JANE SAYS: Nice move husband-to-be. Wait until the wedding plans are in full swing then spring this unsavoury surprise. Show him the door because who knows what other secrets, he’s got up his sleeve.
This man is not to be trusted.
Forget the notion of humiliation and save yourself before he robs you and ruins the rest of your life. This is no time for saving face or worrying about your pride.