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Give us a clue
My ex-boyfriend was a virgin when we met.
At first, sex between us was awkward and fiddly. He didn’t have a clue, but we went on to have a four-year relationship.
I taught him everything – how to perform oral sex, use adult toys and bring a woman to orgasm. He credited me with giving him invaluable lessons in love.
We broke up in May when I met someone else. He was devastated.
Now he’s bragging to mutual friends about his sexual history. He wants to get a new girlfriend. He’s throwing out figures of between 15-20 hot lovers. I know he’s lying because I was his first and I taught him all he knows.
I’m annoyed. He is making stuff up and, lying through his teeth. What is he playing at?
JANE SAYS: Clearly your ex is hurting and humiliated and is mouthing off to bounce back. So, what if he’s making ridiculous claims? What’s that got to do with you now?
From what you say, you and he are history, and you no longer have any dealings with him. He can say anything he likes if it’ll make him feel better. Tell whoever is passing this gossip on to you, that you don’t want to hear any more. If it’s happening on social media, then unfriend him.
Obviously, you yearned to be single again to move on, so keep working on your new relationship and not your complicated ex.
Fretting over his fragile ego is no longer your concern.
Sheep dog trials
I get very upset if people fail to respond instantly to my social media posts. I live for ‘likes’ and replies and if I don’t get them then I feel rejected and unloved.
The other day I sent my best friend a funny clip of two Collie dogs herding sheep, plus a of shot of my Sushi lunch.
When she still hadn’t commented, over an hour later, I sent her a stinking message. I found out later that she was in an important job interview. She was furious with me for being so ‘needy’ and ‘pathetic’. Am I?
JANE SAYS: It’s common to expect immediate responses to our messages. But often our friends and family are busy with other things. Real life and work have a habit of getting in the way. Just because you have your phone permanently clamped to your side, doesn’t mean that everyone else does too.
You must apologise to your friend for being annoying.
Admit that you are guilty of being impatient and promise to be more realistic and to learn from this.
Hopefully your relationship will recover and she’ll forgive you. But you’ll have to start being tough with yourself, because change is necessary and not everything is about you.
I’m sure that all dogs are cute and that delicious lunches are fascinating, but they’re not for everyone, all the time.