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Lunchtime lover
I like to have sex at work. It makes me feel amazing. “Post-sex clarity” leaves me creative and sharp. All that blood pumping around my body sets me on fire.
I stumble back to my desk, buzzing and alert, and do my best work. My boss marvels at how clever I am in the afternoons. He jokes about the whole office having what I have for lunch.
What I have for lunch is my lover, over the sink in the disabled toilet at 1pm. I’m married and he’s single, and sneaking off for lunch-break sex is our thing.
The only problem is that he’s started to feel guilty and says we shouldn’t meet anymore. But how can we stop when I’ve become addicted to this midday hit and I’ll be nothing in the workplace without it?
JANE SAYS: You and your lover take a huge risk every time you go into the office toilet for sex. I understand that the sneaky sex makes you feel clear-headed and alive.
You march back into the office on top of the world, but this habit is unsustainable. Inevitably, a colleague will spot you and then your credibility will be blown. You may even face the sack for gross misconduct – who knows.
You are married and it’s up to you how you behave but have you stopped to question why you’re cheating?
Also, you must respect your lover’s plea when he tells you that he wants to stop. I suggest you find a new way of getting your dopamine rush.
Family affair
My girlfriend won’t do anything without the whole of her family coming too. Over the summer I organised various trips to the seaside and at least eight extras turned up at a time.
Now I’d like to book a holiday for next spring but she wants the whole clan to be included. Help.
JANE SAYS: Is your girl reluctant to spend time alone with you because she finds safety in numbers? Or does she feel obliged to include her extended family because they get jealous or miffed if she doesn’t?
Talk to her and explain that you’d like this next holiday to be just the two of you.