Adult star dated ‘six individuals without delay’ as ‘people aren’t meant to be monogamous’

Adult star Emily Mai confessed that polyamory has made life “more full” after she once dated “six people” at the same time, insisting “polyamory is natural” and “monogamy isn’t”

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For Emily Mai, polyamory isn’t about avoiding commitment – it’s about redefining it. The adult star says non-monogamous relationships have allowed her to pursue multiple connections at once – without the pressure of relying on just one partner.

She said: “At one point, I was seeing six people. Two single guys and two couples – so technically six.”

Emily believes humans are naturally “non-monogamous” and says the biggest shift has been letting go of the idea that one person should fulfil every emotional, physical and sexual need. She said: “Being poly means you’re not putting all your wants, needs and desires into one person. That can be a lot of pressure for both people.”

Rather than trying to make one person tick every box, Emily believes that having multiple partners is the answer to having all your needs met.

She added: “For me, being polyamorous makes life more full. One person might not like travelling, or only like certain kinks and fetishes, while the other one doesn’t – it just allows you to have different relationships and levels of connections”.

Emily says her desire for non-monogamy started years before she had the words to describe it. She said: “From when I started dating, I would be with someone but still feel drawn to other people. I thought something was wrong with me – like, does this mean I just want to cheat?”

It wasn’t until her early 20s that she discovered polyamory through meetups, workshops and attending sex parties. She added: “That’s when it clicked – this is what I’ve been wanting.

“Sometimes it’s just like ‘I want to explore something that you can’t provide for me here, but I can see it over here’, and people are just too scared to have those conversations.”

Now, Emily says dating monogamous partners is off the table. She said: “I won’t date monogamous people anymore. It always ends the same way – they think they’re open to it, then say ‘I can’t do this anymore. I just want you all to myself’.”

Instead, she prefers partners who understand her lifestyle – including couples. She added: “I genuinely prefer to date couples because they are busy, just like me.

“There’s no expectation to have each other’s attention all day, every day, and I get the best of both worlds with a man and a woman.“

Emily explained that dating couples is like being in a normal relationship, except there’s no expectation to talk everyday, and you’re in a 3-way group chat rather than two. “We had a group chat where we would talk, flirt, and send each other memes,” she shared.

“It was like a normal relationship, you just wouldn’t talk as frequently.” To ensure the wives don’t feel insecure in their “primary” relationship with their husbands, Emily has always been careful about how she communicates..

“I was really mindful that I didn’t talk to the husband one-on-one,” she said. “I was dating both of them – I never wanted the wife to feel like she was being left out or create any reason for insecurity.”

Despite common assumptions, Emily insists polyamory isn’t just about sex. “People think it’s like, ‘I’m going to sleep with everyone’ – but it’s not,” she said.

“Sometimes it’s just having the freedom to connect with people without being judged.” She also claims poly relationships require more honesty than traditional ones – something she believes leads to less cheating.

“If you want a healthy poly relationship, you have to communicate,” she said. “You’re having conversations most couples avoid.”

That includes navigating jealousy – something she says still exists in non-monogamous relationships. And in cases like this, Emily says it’s important to express your insecurities directly.

Emily further stated: “Jealousy is normal and usually comes from insecurity – like worrying someone might stop liking you. When something happens I don’t like, I’ll say, ‘Oh, I felt a little bit jealous when we were at a party and you left me mid conversation to go make out with someone else’.

“You explain what you will and won’t accept and go from there.” However, she’s clear that polyamory isn’t a free pass and that cheating can still happen.

“If you’re hiding things or going behind someone’s back, that’s still cheating,” she said. “It always comes down to communication.”

Emily’s most controversial take is that monogamy is unnatural, and argues that modern relationships are shaped more by social conditioning than natural behaviour. She said: “Polyamory is natural.

“Monogamy isn’t. Historically, humans weren’t monogamous – it came from people wanting control, wanting to know who their children were and passing things down.

“People have been taught that one partner is the only way. But that doesn’t mean it works for everyone.”

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