‘Kissing and licking with my gal pal was superb – however I do not know what to do’

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Ready to mingle

I recently kissed another girl and – I liked it.

We got naked. We kissed and touched and licked but didn’t go all the way and have full sex.

But I would like to take things further. I think we’d be great together. We’re messaging each other and she’s flirting with me. Neither of us has ever been in a girl-on-girl relationship before.

We have another night out coming up soon and I need to know how to behave towards her. I have been single for years after being very badly hurt by my ex who specialised in cruel mind games.

I’m wary of being hurt. My new love interest seems trustworthy but how do I protect myself this time around?

JANE SAYS: Simply be honest. Tell this woman that you like her and would love to take things further, but you don’t play games. Explain that you’ve been hurt in the past and still feel vulnerable.

Aim to get to know each other gradually and have fun. Take every day as it comes. Even if this relationship doesn’t work out, then the next one might. Try not to think in terms of male and female lovers.

Clearly, you’ve clicked with this person; this individual. Another partner might be male or female, and you don’t want to miss out on happiness by being hung up by labels.

Snubbed and humiliated

I’ve been flirting with a colleague for months. We sit together at lunchtimes and gossip about colleagues.

However, at a recent office social, in a swanky hotel, she completely ignored me.

She walked in, said: “Hi” and went and stood all night with the influential people from head office. I ended up drowning my sorrows with the two new recruits who felt sorry for me. I was left looking like a pillock.

Yesterday she tried to talk to me again. I don’t know what’s going on.

JANE SAYS: Stick your chin in the air and get through this. I understand that you feel raw, but people aren’t always straightforward and life isn’t always fair. We’re all humiliated at least once in our lives; we miss-read signals or people have an agenda.

The next time you see your colleague, vow be the bigger person. Smile, say ‘good morning’, then carry on walking. Obviously forget the gossiping and find yourself someone new to chat to at lunch times.

I’m not suggesting you make an enemy of your colleague, but I get the impression that she’s a user; someone who has lent on you to avoid being on her own. Wise up and accept that she isn’t what she seems.