‘My girlfriend and I are each sleeping with the identical horny lady – she needs a threesome’

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Falling hard

My girlfriend is bi-sexual and I’m straight. Our relationship is open with both of us seeing, and sleeping with, other people.

However, we’re currently both attracted to the same individual, which is proving tricky.

This other girl is something special and someone I could easily see myself falling for. She and my girl used to go to school together, but she’s just returned from living in Spain. She’s gorgeous and funny.

Unfortunately, my girlfriend fancies her as much as I do. We’re seeing her separately. She thinks a threesome would be a good icebreaker, but I can’t stand the thought of sharing – even with my own girlfriend.

How is this going to end?

JANE SAYS: I can predict a massive bust up some time soon. The tension and rivalry are already building between you and your long-term girlfriend. You’re in fierce competition and all bets are off. If you’re not happy with your girl, then talk to her about where you’re going wrong.

See if you can both agree to wean yourselves off this third party to save your relationship. Is she interested in doing that or is the race on?

It’s completely up to your joint lover to decide whom she likes best, but if you are the ‘loser’ then you cannot allow any defeat to bring you down.

Life regularly throws us curved balls, and you must get through this.

Like clockwork

My girlfriend thrives on order and routine. She runs this house like clockwork. Meals are served at precise times; there are strict rules about everything.

I don’t know how much more of this I can stand.

I long to kick back and relax in my own home. Yet I’m not even allowed to flop on the sofa in case I mess up the cushions. As for sex: That’s every other Friday at 10pm for exactly thirty minutes. I feel like I’m going mad.

JANE SAYS: I wonder if your girlfriend suffers from some kind of obsessive disorder. Her need to maintain order is overwhelming. I get the impression that you long for flexibility, spontaneity and fun. You feel stifled and almost like an intruder in her all-too-perfect world.

Of course you’ve got to talk to her about this. She must understand how much her fastidiousness is affecting you. She needs to hear that you live there too and that you refuse to tiptoe around like a nuisance.

Does she need a job, hobbies or outside interests? Would she benefit from visiting her GP?

Obviously, you don’t want to upset her by issuing threats, but she must understand that things must change if this relationship is to survive.