‘I wish to sleep with my mum’s fella – they go at all of it evening however he ought to be mine’
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‘I want to make him mine’
Not only is he fit and solvent but he’s kind and funny too. This isn’t fair. He’s closer to my age than hers and should be mine. I’ve been single for ages and deserve some love and good luck. My mum is an attractive woman.
She’s never struggled for lovers and could find someone new in a heartbeat.
Me, I’m less lucky. My last relationship fizzled out when I was made redundant and my funds dried up. My ex-boyfriend wasn’t interested when I could no longer pay for his food and petrol.
He dumped me by text, telling me he had found someone “better” i.e. richer.
Now I have to listen to my mum and her lover having noisy sex all night.
I come down for breakfast and there he is, all bare-chested and gorgeous. I flirt and he flirts back.
I’ve told my sister that I think he fancies me because there’s definitely a spark between us, but she huffs he’s just being nice. How do I make him nicer?
I just know that sex with him will be fantastic and genuinely do feel that I may have found my soul mate. The other day we were headed out at the same time and he asked me if I needed a lift.
Of course, I said “yes” (even though I was going in a completely opposite direction).
We chatted and laughed, and he told me I deserve someone special. Now I’m convinced he was talking about himself – that he was sounding me out.
He even said my mum was driving him crazy because she wants a new bathroom and he’s a professional fitter. If he’s going off her, then how do I make him mine? I’m 27.
JANE SAYS: Forget it. Your mum and her fella are loved up and committed.
You’re looking for signs and cracks that don’t exist. Just because the guy is civil towards you doesn’t mean that he’s interested in a relationship.
Equally, he might moan about her desire for a new bathroom, but couples verbally spar with each other all the time.
I urge you to back off, find somewhere new to live and get a man of your own.
Certain people are out of bounds and this guy is one of them. If you can’t trust yourself around him, then keep your distance.
Your mother trusts you to be on her side. Sometimes in this life we just must accept that we can’t always have what we want.
Besides, would you choose to be with a man who has already been intimate with your own mother? Yuck. I don’t doubt that he’s good looking and sexy, but could he be winding you up?
Is it possible that he senses your adoration or even that your sister has said something?
Claw back your dignity by sobering up and accepting the current situation.
Learn from past mistakes and shape your own future.
