‘Threesome with a intercourse employee was intense – however my girlfriend is consuming me alive’
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Too much
I chased my girl for months before she agreed to go on a date with me. I sent her flowers and chocolates. I stood outside her work with a big umbrella so that she wouldn’t get wet walking to the bus.
I promised her great holidays, big laughs, and wild nights. She was very grateful and polite but kept saying: “You won’t be able to handle me.” In the end I came up with two tickets to a great concert. I promised her fizz and a night in the hotel of her choice.
She finally relented and allowed me to take her out.
The concert was great but the night in the hotel was even better. We made love all night long with her shocking and surprising me at every turn. I never realised that being tied to a bed for hours could be so much fun… Now we’re a couple and I’m in over my head. The problem is that she is sex mad, and I struggle to keep up with her.
She never wants a night off. She literally charges through the door after work and rips my clothes off. There’s no kissing or cuddling as far as she’s concerned – it’s straight down to business with no questions asked.
Don’t get me wrong; I love the fact that she’s such a live-wire and, fancies me so much. Of course, I like to have sex too, but I increasingly feel as though I’m faking it, especially after I’ve had a gruelling day myself.
In the time we’ve been together we’ve romped everywhere from a museum storeroom (don’t ask) to the lift at my mum’s flats.
She wants sex in the kitchen and in the bath.
For my birthday she treated me to a threesome with a professional sex worker, which was intense.,
She’s so full on that I feel like a rung out rag. I keep thinking that she’s going to calm down soon and give me a few nights off – but it’s just not happening.
I hate to admit it, but she was right; I am struggling to handle her but am too proud to admit it. Help.
JANE SAYS: You must calmly tell your girl you need the occasional breather; you’re only human and have your limits.
Suggest a sex contract of one night on/one night off and see if she’s willing to see things from your point of view and compromise. Obviously, you don’t want to break up over this current imbalance, so emphasise that you are a reasonable, grateful – but very exhausted guy.
You love her and this doesn’t take anything away from your relationship, but is she willing to see things from your point of view too? Can she give you a break?
Sadly, if she isn’t willing to compromise, then you need to talk again.
Your girlfriend is clearly a highly sexed, energetic woman, but there are two of you in this relationship and you’re equally entitled to your own pace and opinion.
You love your girl and find her sexy and exciting, but very few people can keep up this level of sexual energy long term. Would introducing sex toys into the bedroom take some of the heat and pressure off you?
Look at what is available on-line or in specialist shops and see what floats her boat. Is it possible that she’s a sex addict and would benefit from professional therapy?
Is she happy with her life, her sexual energy, and her urges? Is all of this sex making her truly happy?
