‘I’m being blackmailed by my intercourse employee – my world will finish if she tells my spouse’

JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who deeply regrets getting involved with a ruthless operator

Must I pay off a demanding escort girl to save my marriage? I thought I was having a regular affair. But it turns out my lover expects cash.

Every time we have sex, she presents me with a bill. So far, I’ve coughed up £3,000.

She says if I don’t pay a further £3,000 for the ‘termination of our deal’ then she’ll speak to my wife.

Help.

JANE SAYS: You must get in first and tell your wife everything. You must not pay out another penny to your lover or have this nightmare hanging over you. You’ve done wrong, so own it.

Of course, your wife will be furious, but you cannot be blackmailed or threatened. Why did you ever start this affair in the first place? Do the police need to be informed?

Juices are flowing

I’m obsessed with my girlfriend’s gorgeous flatmate.

I’d like all three of us to have sex together. Is that kinky?

My heart beats out of my chest every time the flatmate flirts with me. She’s so clever and witty.

My girlfriend is attractive, but she’s not a patch on her sexy pal. Just imagining all three of us in bed together sends my juices flowing.

The flatmate used to live in the South of France nannying for a rich family. She has so many interesting stories to tell. I’m convinced she fancies me because she’s sticks her chest out and says saucy things whenever we chat.

What’s my next move when I yearn for excitement and a challenge and I need to make this happen?

JANE SAYS: Back off and don’t even think about making a move on your girlfriend’s mate. I’m sure she’s fascinating with interesting stories to tell but you’re in a relationship and she’s out of bounds. Fantasies are all very well – in your own head…

You may well fancy her, but we can’t always have what we want in life. Be grateful for your blessings and appreciate your trusty girlfriend.

Sadly, if you’ve fallen out of love with her and don’t believe your relationship has legs, then find the courage to talk to her about where you go from here.

But don’t be a creepy nuisance.

Dry ship

I was too busy to organise my partner’s 35^th birthday, so was delighted when a friend offered to cater it for me.

She said she’d do everything. She quoted me a very high price, but I said ‘okay’ because I was desperate.

The night was a disaster. The food was sparse and disgusting. The booze ran out at 8pm and the DJ (her bloke) was hopeless. She didn’t even provide a cake, and everyone went home at 9pm.

As I had paid her in advance, I thought she should give me some money back. She disagreed and we haven’t spoken since. Now I’m hearing rumours that she’s slagging ME off for damaging her reputation. How does that work?

JANE SAYS: Feelings are clearly running high.

You feel short-changed while your friend, the lame caterer, is desperately trying to salvage her career and name. But backbiting won’t solve anything.

You’ve got to sort this out face-to-face. Go round to see her. Don’t be aggressive but do emphasise that expectations weren’t met. Where did the money go? Can she show you detailed receipts? Her business needs to be scrupulously and above board if it is to survive.

Check out ‘Trading Standards’ at citizensadvice.org.uk if you feel you’ve been ripped off.

JUST JANE by Jane O’Gorman

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