‘I’m sleeping with 4 members of my boyfriend’s household – they usually pay me for pleasure’

JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who is hooked on male attention and dirty cash

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They pay for extras

My boyfriend forgot my birthday back in November. He didn’t even bother to get me a card, let alone a present.

I was so angry that I went out and slept with three of his cousins in quick succession. Now I’m also bonking a stepbrother too. How can I help it if so many members of the same family find me irresistible?

I’m currently working as a freelance hairdresser offering ‘extras’, which gives me cover to zip around in my car all day.

My secret lovers all work from home in various capacities so I pop over whenever any of them fancies a quick rub down and a bit of fun. Let’s just say that I’m rarely disappointed. In the past few weeks I’ve stroked and pleasured the whole bunch and all have been more than happy to give me good tips. In fact, his stepbrother has said he wants to make our arrangement a regular thing for, which he’s prepared to pay me handsomely.

I only stick with my boyfriend because he has a nice flat (which I live in rent free) and all the other male members of his family are so damn hot. They’re a lively go-getting bunch and family parties are a hoot.

The problem is that my fella is the weakest link; he’s boring and neglects me. He earns money with his wealthy dad. But all he cares about is playing on-line computer games and slobbing out. He wears the same grubby clothes all the time and lives off delivered food and gassy drinks. In contrast his male relatives are delicious. I suppose I should break up with him, but he gives me a good excuse to stay in touch with them. Am I playing a terrible game? Why shouldn’t I have a bit of fun? After all, I’m only young.

JANE SAYS: You’re living on borrowed time. I predict that any day now this whole house of cards is going to come crashing down on your head. One of the cousins will speak out or your boyfriend will finally look up from his computer and smell a rat.

You think you are walking on water right now. You’re zipping around in your little car feeling invisible and fabulous, but I’ve got a horrible feeling that these gorgeous lovers could be laughing at you behind your back. Who knows? Maybe your boyfriend has so little respect for you that he’s in on the joke too and doesn’t care that you’re servicing half his family for a fee.

Talking of which, doesn’t it concern you that you’re effectively getting paid for sex? What does that make you? You must wean yourself off this tawdry situation right now. You owe it to yourself to take stock and get back on the straight and narrow.

Clearly things should have ended with your boyfriend a long time ago. From the sounds of things, he’s locked in his own little word and has no respect or love for you. Tell him goodbye and claw back the rest of your dignity and your reputation and start again.

Learn from this and don’t play silly games with your health or your career again in future.

She boobed

My girlfriend has gone all weird on me. Suddenly, it’s almost impossible to track her down. The other day I decided to test her. I got a bloke at work to send her a text on his phone. He claimed to be a friend of a friend. He said that he’d seen her around and liked her. Did she fancy a drink? She replied straight away claiming that she was a free agent, sex starved and up for fun. She even pinged across a picture of her bare boobs.

Then I called her and told her she was busted, but she swore she knew it was me all along. Am I wasting my time?

JANE SAYS: Your disloyal girlfriend sounds bored rigid in this relationship. If she thinks it’s okay to send explicit pictures of herself to strange men (I don’t buy the ‘I knew it, was you’ excuse), then she needs to be shown the door.

If she’s too cowardly to end this relationship, then you must take the initiative and put it out of its misery.

Sometimes in life we need to take a deep breath and do the right thing, so matter how awkward that is. If you simply allow this relationship to fester and drift then anger, bitter and resentment will follow. I’m sure that both of you will be much happier apart – and then in entirely new relationships.

Seedy past

My mother is extremely grand.

But, growing up, I was fully aware that she was a common prostitute because all the other kids used to tell me so. Our house always had special ‘uncles’ coming and going and I was regularly sent to stay with my grandparents. Now she acts like she the Mother Superior. The past is completely forgotten. She is a hypocrite and I find it so irritating that she thinks she can totally reinvent herself without me noticing. Her snooty new pals know nothing of her real self and that makes me wild.

JANE SAYS: People reinvent themselves all the time. You can hardly blame your mother for wishing to park the past. You cannot judge the person she was then because you have no way of knowing what kind of pressures she was under. It could be that a controlling partner was pimping her out or that she owed money or favours. But what you can do is insist that she treats you with politeness and respect now. Get her on her own and explain that you’re struggling to cope with her superior attitude. Make it clear that you’re happy to have her in your life but you expect her to display decent manners.

Energy vampire

I’m sick of my sister always copying me. We’re not kids.

I can’t purchase a pair of boots or a jacket without her buying the same. My boyfriend can’t stand her. He calls her an energy vampire. She’s very needy and sad and I feel slightly responsible for her social life and happiness.

JANE SAYS: It would be great if you could simply come clean and tell her the truth. If you can’t, then maybe you have to accept that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

It’s sad that your sister is needy and unconfident. Could it be that she needs to be encouraged to branch out and sort out her life. Can you offer to help and support her in establishing an identity of her own.