‘Best mate’s spouse despatched me a nude – I can not cease it and now I need extra’
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Blind panic
I’m convinced my best mate’s new wife fancies me.
The other day she sent over a naked picture of herself.
I texted back: “Are you serious?”
She rang me in a blind panic. She begged me to destroy the evidence and never mention her ‘mistake’ to anyone.
But was it a mistake? Was she simply testing the water to see if I’m interested?
Does she secretly fancy me and want an affair? I know she’s married but that image was such a turn on. What if my mate is letting her down in the bedroom and she wants me instead? I certainly haven’t deleted the image. I can’t stop looking at. I want more.
What is my next move?
JANE SAYS: Maybe that naked image was intended for your mate (her husband) or this woman is in the habit of spreading intimate shots of herself around.
But you cannot even think about reaching out to her, bedding her or breaking your mate’s heart or trust. She is out of bounds.
Your next move involves deleting that picture; forgetting this exchange ever happened and putting the whole episode out of your mind.
Don’t fantasise or flatter yourself for a minute longer because some things are simply not on. If your mate and his wife are having marital problems, then, you’ll hear about them in good time.
At that point you’ll be able to give your pal all the love and support he needs.
Big mistake
My best mate is planning to marry a bloke she hardly knows. He’s not her type. She’s privately confessed to me that they have very little in common, but she likes the fact he has a lot of money.
The wedding is planned for next month and I’m seriously considering sabotaging it.
I’ve met this bloke and he’s a plonker. I always thought that she’d end up with my brother who is generous and kind.
How do I prevent someone I care about from making the biggest mistake ever?
JANE SAYS: Your friend is an adult. Her marriage and her future have nothing to do with you. Just because you’ve known her for a long time and harbour a secret desire to see her with your brother, doesn’t give you any kind of claim over her.
Please don’t even think about sabotaging their big day, because you’ll only make a fool of yourself and your input is not required or requested.
I know it’s often hard to keep quiet but how would you like it if she – or anyone else – attempted to tell you whom to date, love or marry?
Wish her well, smile sweetly and concentrate on your own life and relationships.
Close shave
My boyfriend won’t give me oral sex, because I refuse to shave everything off – like a toy doll. My natural approach to fuzz turns his stomach. He’s a lovely guy, but adamant on this point.
This has never been a problem for me with anyone else, and he hurts me every time he pushes me away. How dare he hair shame me?
JANE SAYS: Can your relationship survive without oral sex – or is it a deal breaker?
Talk to your chap away from the bedroom and make it clear how much his rejection hurts and frustrates you. Is this a hygiene issue as far as he’s concerned?
Would he be willing to try this act during a romantic bath together? If he isn’t willing to meet you halfway, then does he have your happiness at heart? And are you in to him enough?
