‘My intercourse addict girlfriend had a threesome with an identical twins – it lasted three days’
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Pink pony club
How do I change my new girlfriend? The problem is that she’s a one-trick pony. She is only interested in sex. She doesn’t want to hear my opinions, meet my mates or have a laugh. I fear she is a sex addict. I don’t know how else to explain her unquenchable appetite for my (merely adequate) body.
I’m flattered that she finds me so desirable but even I have my limits. I like to live a busy and varied life. We’ve been an item for over seven months but still haven’t moved on from the super loved-up stage. We never go for meals, drinks or to the movies. She’s not interested in my family or job – only my performance between the sheets.
I love sex but frequently feel used… Before we got together, people were very peculiar about me liking her. I told my cousin that I was planning to ask her out and she hit the roof. She told me that I must be crazy, that my girl was trouble.
Two of my mates also chipped in with stories about her sleeping around and being notorious. Apparently she once had a threesome with a pair of idential twins that lasted for three days.
I believe that I can change her. Maybe, if I offer her love and a secure future, she’ll alter her ways and settle down in a normal relationship.
The thing is, she’s the best looking girlfriend I’ve ever had. She’s way out of my usual league and I’m desperate not to lose her. I just think that we could have a fantastic life together.
How do I convince her to stop making sex such a priority and start seeing me as an equal human being?
JANE SAYS: Your sex life sounds lively, but your relationship is one-sided and deeply unsatisfying.
Your girl is insatiable and sexy, but if she’s not willing to give you the kind of relationship you crave, then isn’t there the danger that you’re wasting your time? Won’t you become resentful or even angry?
You talk about building a future with her but look at the facts: she isn’t interested in anything besides your body; not your mind, your opinions or your career. I urge you to wake up and get real.
Sit her down today and explain how confused you are by the nature of this relationship. You find each other attractive, but what does she think about taking this relationship forward? What kinds of things would she like to do? Is she interested in travel? Music festivals or planning a home together? Sadly, if she’s not able to give you the answers you crave, then maybe you’ll have to accept that she’s a very one-dimensional person.
Clearly her sexual appetite is beginning to irritate you and what you can’t do is waste your time and energy on someone you’re begging to feel is something of a bloodsucker. If she does have addictive tendencies, then she should be encouraged to consult a health professional.
If you’re feeling down, then take yourself in hand and finally work out what it is that you want out of a relationship and life in general.
Patchy service
My husband has admitted he still misses a woman he had an affair with four years ago. He cheated on me with her just nine months into our marriage, but we patched things up.
Now to hear that he thinks about her (and presumably fantasises about her too) is killing me all over again.
JANE SAYS: Your husband has to tell you the truth about his real feelings towards you. It’s one thing still missing an ex, but how much does he love, value and respect you?
Does he still see his future in your arms or are you both wasting your time? Suggest relationship counselling together or consider going on your own. Presumably you’re now feeling that your whole marriage has been based on a lie.
How do you feel about that?
