‘I’m nonetheless having intercourse with my flirty ex-girlfriend however want she’d go away me alone’

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Fly away home

My ex-girlfriend dumped me in March – but won’t go away. She keeps sending flirty messages. She pops round. She asks for sex; money and a fresh start.

A few times, recently, we’ve ended up in bed together and I’ve felt terrible afterwards.

Every time I start seeing someone new, she makes trouble for me. I’m not completely heartless; breaking up has been tough, especially as we were together for three years.

But she ended things with me, and I don’t see why I should feel responsible. Do you?

JANE SAYS: Your ex realises that she made a mistake in walking out on you and is now trying every trick in the book to lure you back.

I worry that you’re simply being too nice. I understand that you were very close for a while, but those days are over. The old relationship ended the day she walked away from you.

Now you’re moving on and she must too. I agree that making a final break is very hard, but she’s an adult and needs to pull herself up to her full height. The fact is that she can’t have her foot in two camps; she can’t demand her freedom but keep coming back to you.

Warn her that you won’t be having any more to do with her from today – or you’ll never recover.

Spoilt brat

I dared to complain about being broke during a restaurant meal with my sister’s and her husband and he flipped out. He raged that I am privileged and spoilt.

He gave me a lecture about world poverty and British suffering and made me feel about five inches tall. I didn’t shout back or cry. I simply muttered: “Sorry” and left.

Now I don’t know where I stand. He totally humiliated me. How can I be in his company again?

My sister is begging me not to make a fuss. I can’t tell my parents what happened, because they already hate him and call him a bully. I’m worried about causing a family split.

JANE SAYS: I don’t think you should hide this information from your parents. Maybe you need to accept that you and your brother-in-law will never see eye-to-eye.

Perhaps you were guilty of being flippant, but he certainly overreacted. I’m sure he’ll argue that he can say anything he likes, but you don’t have to tolerate him again. Tell your sister that you now need some space.

Will your brother-in-law ever apologise? Probably not.

If he really is a bully them, hopefully, your sister will start to see him for the person he really is and think about getting out.