‘I noticed my boss pleasuring bunch of males on racy web site – I am unable to even have a look at her’
JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who doesn’t know how to behave around his racy boss
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Shocked by her sexy side hustle
How do I face my boss when I’ve seen her naked, pleasuring a group of horny men on a porn site?
She’s due back from an extended trip to Australia next week. She’s already messaged to say that she’s brimming with ideas for our business (property) and has scheduled in meetings with suppliers, clients, and builders alike. She wants me involved with every aspect of her plans but how am I going to keep a straight face?
How can I ever look at her the same way again?
I now realise that she is not the person I thought she was – that she has dark secrets and extreme sexual tastes… Everything came to light a couple of weeks ago when my girlfriend suggested perking things up in the bedroom. She and I have been together for seven years. We love each other totally and always have a good laugh but there’s no denying that the passion has fallen off in recent times.
She said that a girl at her work had been looking at a blue site with her boyfriend that they found very exciting and horny. They’d started to enjoy great sex again as a result of the on-screen action.
We thought we’d give it a try.
Big mistake. Within a short period of time, we’d found my boss, performing X-rated content. Believe me, nothing was off limits. And it’s definitely her because not only do I recognise her face but she’s wearing the same distinctive pendant and rings that she wears to work. My girl thinks the whole thing is hilarious but I’m not someone who can mask his emotions or feelings. I’m terrified that I’m going to blurt something out and give myself away.
JANE SAYS: It takes all sorts to make a world.
Presumably your boss is a woman who likes sex and is proud of her body. If she also likes money and realises that she can make a decent, second income, from performing online, then that’s up to her.
She doesn’t need your permission – or anyone else’s – to do her own thing. Don’t be too quick to judge or call her out because you might have got this all wrong – and mixed her up with someone else. You just don’t know.
And certainly, don’t gossip about what you may, or may not, have seen. I suggest you do the following: When she returns from her extended trip then welcome her back. Always be professional, look her in the eye, do your job and think about your salary and your bills.
The fact is that she’s never been inappropriate with you or asked for your consent or asked you to join in, so her bedroom antics are no concern of yours.
Concentrate on your own relationship. Talk to your girl about other ways in which you and she can keep the flame burning. If looking at online content isn’t for you then consider date nights, early nights, role playing and erotic fiction instead.
You cannot allow your boss’s sexy side hustle to put you off your stroke… You’ve got this.
Party is my idea of hell
My best friend and her man are planning a huge party on August Bank Holiday Monday.
They’re going to announce their engagement and want me there to toast the happy couple and give a speech. I can’t think of anything worse. She knows that I hate parties and would rather claw my own eyes out than stand up in public.
Yet she says it would be churlish and selfish of me to refuse. The party starts at 2pm with drinks and a barbecue for 60 and then shots and dancing into the night. My idea of hell. Why must I feel obliged to do something I’m not interested in?
JANE SAYS: Is simply turning up for the toast, giving a short speech and leaving again an option, or do you feel your mate might be testing your friendship in some way? I fully understand that you don’t like noise and a fuss, and, as an independent adult, you’re fully entitled to organise your own life and say ‘no thanks’ when a situation doesn’t suit you. Can’t you have a quiet word with her now and tell her that she’s asking too much. She knows you and surely, she respects the private individual you are. The downside of always turning down invitations is that they’ll inevitably stop coming. Do you really want that?
I can’t perform since she mentioned babies
Ever since my partner told family and friends that she’s desperate for a baby, I’ve been unable to make love to her. What has upset me is that she chose to make this disclosure at a party packed with everyone we know; this is even though she and I have never discussed starting a family.
Several times now, I’ve failed to rise to the occasion and things are terrible between us. She’s now begging me to forget the baby idea. She’s blaming herself for putting me under pressure. I’m not consciously rejecting her; it’s just that my body won’t work. What’s going on?
JANE SAYS: It sounds like your sub-conscious is playing games. Something in the back of your mind is holding you back. My feeling is that the two of you need to calm down, get back to basics and remember why you feel in love in the first place. Take sex off the menu for the time being and concentrate on having fun and rebuilding your connection. However, if you really don’t want to have children – ever – then you owe it to your partner to tell her that. Then she can decide if she is happy to proceed with you knowing that children aren’t going to come along.
Mate sticks like glue
How do I shake off a friend who sticks to me like fly paper. She expects to be involved in everything I do. She comes to my family events and turns up at my work too. She’s loud and inappropriate and I need my space, only she doesn’t get that. How do I get her to back off and leave me alone?
JANE SAYS: Tell her that she oversteps the mark every time she turns up uninvited. Why doesn’t she have other friends or interests of her own? Is she a true mate or more of a hindrance? If she can’t listen to your wishes, then how much does she value your friendship?
I worry that she simply views you as a route to a good time.
