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My blue tits failed to impress
My new boyfriend keeps demanding sexy pics.
Every day he pesters me for erotic snaps and horny comments. He wants to hear what I’d like to do to him. In return he tells me, in no uncertain details, what he plans to do to me…
I find this pressure exhausting as I have a full-on job with a lot of responsibility. People rely on me to be hard working and on the ball. The other day he asked for yet another shot of my naked breasts – so I sent him a pic of two blue tits sitting on a branch outside of my office. He didn’t get the joke. I’m uncomfortable. I frequently feel silly and compromised. I don’t want him to think I’m a prude, but I can’t take his demands seriously especially when the shots of his manhood come in thick and fast…
JANE SAYS: Stay true to yourself and stick to your principles. At the moment you’re faking an interest in your boyfriend’s fetish that’s not heathy or viable. Do you get the impression that he’s testing you? What gives him the right to do that? Does he realise that you’re uncomfortable but is continuing to demand you comply anyway?
I’m worried about where these images are going and what might happen to them in the future. You must be able to trust him to have your best interests at heart.
Sadly, if he thinks this relationship is nothing but a sordid game of one-upmanship, then are you suited? Should you demand all the images back?
Our little secret
I don’t mean to blow my own trumpet but I’m aware that a woman in at my work is obsessed with me. She’s three pay grades below me and keeps telling colleagues that I’m her ‘dream man’. I’m flattered and confused. She knows that I’m married but has made it clear that she’s up for a ‘no strings fling’. Dare I risk this? I don’t see why my wife would ever find out.
Loads of people at this firm have affairs, so it wouldn’t be a sacking matter.
JANE SAYS: If your besotted colleague really is obsessed with you, then would one night of passion be enough? Surely it would merely whet her appetite. One clinch would lead to another. Where would it end? What if she were to fall in love with you and things became complicated?
Sleeping with another woman and hiding the truth from your wife would be plain wrong. Wake up and accept that everything your colleague is suggesting is inappropriate and cannot be acted upon. Being flattered is one thing but putting your whole marriage in jeopardy is something else. Also, how can you be sure that an affair wouldn’t harm your position at work?
I nodded off
My boyfriend is furious because I fell asleep during a night out. We were in a hot restaurant and I was bored. I put my head on the table and the next thing he was shaking me awake. Apparently, he was planning to propose and stormed off in a huff.
Now he’s childishly ignoring my calls.
JANE SAYS: Presumably you’ve apologised for embarrassing him. There’s no denying that falling asleep was rude. Call a truce and ask if you can start again. That said, it doesn’t sound as if you’re that into him. Would accepting a proposal be a good idea if he bores you that much?
Check in with you GP regarding your health in general.