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DEAR JANE
My guy upsets me by reaching out to other women online. He’s spends hours scrolling when we’re supposed to be watching a film or enjoying couple time. He argues that he’s a friendly person and there’s nothing wrong with him ‘liking’, ‘following’ and communicating with other women – usually complete strangers – in his own time.
I’ve seen his phone and none of his online female friends look anything like me – they’re all sexy, younger and hot.
I’m looking forward to the new season of Love Island and seeing the gorgeous, talented Maya Jama on screen again but, I understand something similar has (allegedly) happened to her, so what chance do I have of taming my overly friendly man?
JANE SAYS: There have been unconfirmed reports this week that Maya Jama, 31, and footy ace Ruben Dias, 29, called time on their 18-month relationship because he was (allegedly) ‘toe-dipping’ on Instagram during their romance.
Toe-dipping is a ‘reaching out’ move. Someone follows you on social media and waits to see if you follow them back. By tipping the toe in the water, they’ve shown an interest in you without being too pushy or obvious. There is nothing to suggest that Ruben cheated on Maya during their time together.
But, from what you say, your boyfriend is upsetting you by openly following, liking and chatting to other women.
Not cool. No one would blame you for feeling angry and betrayed. Is your man on the lookout for a new lover? Does he feel that you’ve served your purpose as his partner and it’s time to move on to pastures new?
He needs to tell you what he’s thinking and feeling because, at the moment, his behaviour is insulting, sneaky and unfair.
Does he accept that he’s mentally cheating on you? Is he flirting? Is he lying? Discuss…
The bottom line is that he needs to hear that you don’t like and don’t appreciate his behaviour because it feels disrespectful and underhand.
Maya Jama is a strong, successful woman. I don’t get the impression that she suffers fools gladly or allows anyone to bring her down – and you shouldn’t either.
You need to value yourself and remember that you are important and beautiful. You cannot allow your guy to play petty games right under your nose.
Proper, grown-up relationships are built on trust and commitment. if you don’t feel that your man is on your side then he needs to be shown the door.
A mobile phone is a powerful instrument. It’s not a toy. With a phone comes responsibility. With social media we are able to reach out beyond our normal environment into a world of excitement, colourful personalities and challenges. But none of us can ever risk forgetting or underappreciating what we have right under our noses at home.
It’s often said that the best form of revenge is success. Maya Jama is flying high with her Love Island gig and swimwear contract with Agent Provocateur. She knows her own worth and is grabbing life by the throat – you should be too.