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Brotherly love
I’m sleeping with my partner and his brother.
My partner left me in March. A few days later his brother came round to comfort me. One thing led to another, and we ended up in bed. We had a fantastic night, and he begged to see me again. Then my ex-partner asked to borrow £600 as his new lover had left him.
I was weak and said: “Okay”. He came round to pick it up and WE ended up in bed together.
Now he’s back for good and we’re making a go of things, only my lover/his brother still wants sex and won’t leave me alone. I feel trapped. I’m juggling two guys from the same family and don’t know which way to turn.
JANE SAYS: Take control and break your lover’s power over you.
Tell him that this is the end. Your partner is back home, and you need to make this work. Sadly, if he threatens you again, then you must get in first and tell your partner everything. Of course he’s not going to like it, but I can’t imagine that you liked him going off with another woman either…
The point is that mistakes have been made on all sides, but this is your chance to stabilise your life. I can’t help feeling that the crafty brother is an opportunist. He wasted no time in sneaking in.
You’ve all been through some crazy times and now they must end.
Just the tonic
I bring vodka into work in a water bottle and swig away without anyone noticing. Then I hit the wine back at home. I know I’ve got a problem with booze, but I can’t stop. I work in a highly demanding industry. Recently I failed to hit a target.
I was convinced I’d be sacked and went on a massive bender. I hit the bottle like a demon.
In the end I received a verbal warning from my boss. The problem is that I can’t show any weakness. I can’t mention my problems to my colleagues, parents or my girlfriend because they all think that I’m strong.
I’m dying inside.
JANE SAYS: You must speak out and get the help you clearly need. Confide in your girlfriend and your GP too. They both need to understand the pressures you’re under and how much you’re really drinking. The booze isn’t helping you: it’s making a bad situation very much worse.
Please accept that you can’t do this on your own.
There’s no shame in admitting that you need support. Ultimately you may have to conclude that this career is just not right for you. Start putting your health first and vow to get through the immediate future one day at a time.
Your life may seem hopeless, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Call The Samaritans (116 123) if ever you feel desperate.