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Double trouble
My brother doesn’t like that my girlfriend is a part-time escort. I find this hypocritical of him as he once paid for her services and only found out the truth about her career when he came face-to-face with her in a hotel bedroom. He still went ahead with the sex…
I don’t have a problem with her profession. We have an open, honest relationship.
We know what we’re doing. We’ve been together for two years and I accept that she is very good at sex and simply uses her talents. How dare he judge? That said, are you honestly comfortable with your girl’s career? is it something that you and she need to talk about? What about her sexual health, reputation and safety? What about your mental health too?
JANE SAYS: Keep talking to your brother. Remind him that none of us are perfect and that your girl believes that she offers a valuable service – one that you don’t have a problem with.
Remind him that life is short and tough and that none of us know what is lurking around the corner.
It must have come as a shock for him to come face-to-face with your sex worker girlfriend. I suspect he now feels embarrassed and rather confused.
Maybe you need to reassure him that his secret is safe, that you never plan to tell friends or family members about his assignation. Is that what he’s actually worried about?
Barking mad
I’m struggling to cope with my partner. We don’t have sex and I pay for everything.
She also sneaks around and borrows money from my parents, which makes my blood boil.
I’m still in my prime and believe I have much to offer a decent partner, but she doesn’t seem to like or respect me. I worry that if I were to leave her tomorrow, then she’d move straight back in with one of her many ex-lovers and I wouldn’t see our two dogs again.
JANE SAYS: I understand that you love your pooches, but you can’t base your whole life and happiness around two dogs.
What about shared care? You have the dog in rotation?
It’s very sad that you and your partner have hit this wall. Can you level with her? Can you explain how unhappy you are and suggest a fresh start? Or is this relationship already dead in the water?
I can’t imagine that she’s too happy either. If she’s angry and distant and struggling to manage money, then it could be that she’s feeling depressed.
Don’t be embarrassed about speaking to your GP about your situation. Ask he or she what help might be available to you. In the meantime, eat well, avoid booze and gets lots of exercise so that you start to feel mentally and physically stronger.
Remember The Samaritans are on 116 123.