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Every day, the Daily Star’s very own agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is on hand to tackle your issues and concerns with some straight-talking but sound advice.
From bedroom confessions to self-confidence issues , drug use and everything else, Jane has helped thousands of Daily Star readers over the years and isn’t slowing down.
If you want help, you can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Please note that Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published.
Tight squeeze
I fancy my mate’s boyfriend – and I’m convinced that he likes me too. Dare I nip in and see if he’s interested in a night of no-strings-attached lust?
The other day I squeezed past him in their kitchen and I swear he was turned on. My mate is always slagging him off and saying that he’s useless.
But I see something in him that she’s taking for granted. I think I could make very good use of him sexually. I fantasise about him every time I use a sex toy.
How do I move this forward?
JANE SAYS: If you crave a lover; if you’re after affection and passion, then find your own partner.
Maybe this guy is attractive but that doesn’t mean that you can take this any further.
Your friend trusts you. Every time she lets you into her home, she expects you to respect her space and to behave yourself – it all goes without saying. I
t may look as though she no longer loves her man, or has any respect for him, but you have no way of knowing what’s really going on inside her head, their relationship or their bed.
If she didn’t feel anything for him, then they wouldn’t still be living together, would they?
Vow to turn your life around. Get out and start mixing with available, single people who are capable of giving you the life you crave.
Hard sweets
My children are being spoilt by their competing grandparents. I love my mother but she’s competitive. She’s queen of the guilt trip. I regularly get trapped into hosting her.
She turns up armed with hard sweets and I don’t like it. My husband’s parents bombard my children with cheap tat from charity shops and the Internet.
I realise that sourcing toys keeps them busy, but I’m the one who has to tidy this stuff – and I fear my children are being too materialistic.
JANE SAYS: It’s vital that you and your husband become a strong team. Work together and learn to say ‘no’. Of course, it’s lovely for your children to see their very generous grandparents, but not all the time.
You, and he, need to see your own friends too. Make sure that you purchase a very large calendar and be very firm about when you’re free and when you’re otherwise engaged.
Don’t allow anyone to make you feel guilty, because you deserve plenty of free time too. If they don’t like it, then they can mutter amongst themselves.
As for the toys and sweets you must put your foot down and set limits. Warn them all that you will give stuff away if you find yourselves being overwhelmed.