If you have a problem that needs solving and you don’t know where to turn, look no further.
Every day, the Daily Star’s very own agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is on hand to tackle your issues and concerns with some straight-talking but sound advice.
From bedroom confessions to self-confidence issues , drug use and everything else, Jane has helped thousands of Daily Star readers over the years and isn’t slowing down.
If you want help, you can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Please note that Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published.
Hook, line and stinker
I’ve always loved sex workers.
All of my real relationships have broken down because of my enjoyment of grubby sex. Normal girls do nothing for me. I’m not interested in feelings or opinions.
If I want sex, then I want it on my own terms.
Whenever I felt horny, I simply go online and order up a girl or two. Or I go to one of the many ‘private members clubs’ I know around the country.
Unfortunately, a colleague has found out about my lifestyle and is threatening to go public in a slightly blood sucking, blackmaily sort of way. What do I do?
JANE SAYS: Get your colleague on his own and remind him that you are entitled to live your life – outside of work – anyway you choose. Perhaps he doesn’t approve of how you conduct yourself, but it’s none of his business.
If by blackmail, he’s threatening to tell your bosses or family members, then tell him that you’ll go to the police. And mean it.
However, if you’re worried that you have a serious problem, then you need to speak to your GP and explain that you’ve been de-sensitised.
Years of paying for sex have left you treating it like any other commodity. You’re not interested in romance, love or forming any kind emotional attachment – and that’s very sad, for you.
How are you ever going to find real happiness with a partner if the patience and respect simply aren’t there?
Sing for supper
My new husband lost his job days after we married, and my hours have been cut.
We now rely on his parents to give us handouts. But we pay a heavy price. We’re forced to go round to their place every Sunday morning, do chores, cook and listen to how great they are.
Money is handed over at 7pm, which we follow up with a handwritten letter. It’s all so humiliating.
JANE SAYS: Of course it’s generous of your in-laws to help, but if they can’t do it with good grace and compassion then something has to change. Your husband needs to make it clear that he plans to be on his feet again very soon and that any monies will be paid back in full.
Suggest that they work out a proper loan, with a repayment plan, so that you feel a lot less like the poor relations in future. There’s nothing wrong with visiting them, helping them with cooking or chores, but it’s the general attitude that has to change.
If you feel that they’re getting some kind of power kick out of lecturing you, then they need to get over themselves because they might need your help one day…
Bite the bullet
My man has gone off sex. I’ve begged him to see his GP, but he won’t make an appointment. I miss the physical part of our relationship and we’re arguing a lot.
He has accused me of being aggressive and angry but I’m climbing the walls with sexual frustration. Help.
JANE SAYS: Going to see his GP is probably the last thing in the world your man feels like doing, but he has to bite the bullet to save your relationship.
Call a truce and suggest a grown up conversation.
Offer to visit his GP with him but point out that something has to give before this situation spins out of control and kills your love and respect forever.