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Take it to the limit
My partner hates my guts. She never misses an opportunity to tell me that I’m ugly and worthless. She believes that I have let her down in life.
Yet she still expects money in her account every month and sex in our bed every night. Her favourite thing is when I tie her to our cast iron bed with fluffy hand cuffs and rub her all over with pungent oils. The resulting sex is a slippery, slimy and messy. She loves it and screams out for stimulating massage, oral and lubrication.
But then I’m the one who has to remake the bed with fresh sheets and wash the dirty ones. Not fair., eh?
She was witty and warm in the early days of our relationship. But she’s become bitter and hard over the years. Just when I think things can’t get any worse; she destroys another piece of my confidence. What is her problem?
JANE SAYS: If I were inclined to give your partner the benefit of the doubt, I could suggest that she’s stressed and depressed and in need of seeing her GP. Perhaps you should sit her down and gently suggest it?
However, if the truth of the matter is that she’s stopped respecting you, then are you in danger of throwing your life away? You can’t carry on like this, because this amount of tension and abuse is going to make you ill. Explain to your partner how much she hurts you each time she slags you off.
If she despises you so much, then why does she hang around? Would she prefer it if you were to move out, get your own place and never see her again?
She must accept that everyone has their limit and you’re in imminent danger of reaching yours.
Run for you life
I’d only been with my man a few months before he explained to me that he was gravely ill.
He needed money for specialist treatment in South Africa and urged me to start fund-raising.
I organised sponsored runs and set up a website.
I managed to donate £10,000 to my man’s fighting fund.
Now he’s back and has admitted that there was nothing wrong with him. He used the £10,000 on a ‘much needed’ holiday.
He feels he was going through a mental crisis. He wants me to forgive and forget and start afresh.
Can I ever trust him again?
JANE SAYS: Order this wicked individual to leave you alone. What he did to you, and your supporters was cynical, calculated and cruel.
The man leapt from one lie to the next and now he’s asking for a second chance. Forget it. Your next move must be straight to the police to report this fraud and ask for action to be taken.
I very much doubt if you’re the first kind, trusting person he’s duped, but let’s hope you’re the last.
You tried to do a good thing for a person you thought was in genuine trouble. Please learn from this, but don’t allow this con merchant to leave you bitter or ruin your future.