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Hair today, gone tomorrow
My mate’s new wife welcomes other men into their house while he’s on the road as a salesman. I work from home and have noticed a pattern.
A short guy arrives at 3pm every Monday, a tall one at 2pm on a Tuesday and a smartly dressed on at noon on a Thursday.
I could set my watch by them. He once told me that she’s a hairdresser but one of them is as bald as a billiard ball.
Should I tell my friend that I suspect she may be a sex worker and that these men are her paying clients?
What gets me is that the woman has no shame. She is as relaxed and charming as you like at neighbourhood parties and socials.
She smiles and waves whenever I meet her in the street and couldn’t be sweeter. Butter wouldn’t melt…
JANE SAYS: Draw your curtains and vow to get on with your own business. If there is something untoward going on, then you can be assured that the husband will find out for himself somewhere along the line.
For all you know your neighbour could be a perfectly respectable stylist.
There are all manner of professional jobs that a trained person can perform from the comfort of their own home. I can’t imagine that she or her husband would thank you for making unfounded accusations.
The last thing you want to do is fall out with the people who live closest by.
Walter Mitty
My bloke hasn’t spoken to his parents in years. I suspect it’s something to do with him ripping them off over money. I love him but must acknowledge that he’s a liar and a fantasist.
He pretends he’s got all sorts of qualifications.
He boasts that he can ride a horse, climb mountains, and water ski – all rubbish. I can’t even trust him to go to the shop with my debit card because I know he’ll withdraw my cash and get an expensive treat for himself.
He calls me his rock, but I don’t know how much longer I can keep up the pretence of supporting him when I know he’s currently scamming his mate.
JANE SAYS: Front him up. Tell him that you’re aware of his tricks and think they’re dishonest and despicable. Ask him to change his ways and start again.
Sadly, if he’s incapable of being honest, then you’ll have to rethink this whole relationship – just like his family did. Insist he starts being honest with his mate.
Do the police need to be informed? The problem is that he’s been allowed to get away with behaving like a brat for years. He clearly considers himself invincible and untouchable but it’s high time someone stopped him in his tracks.
Is that person going to be you? How much longer are you going to put up with being conned?