Sexpert’s easy tips for hotter romps – and the key is using a mirror

On Feb 1, 2023

A sexpert said there are easy things you can do to have much hotter sex – and one of them is simply adding a mirror into the mix.

Valentine’s Day is the only holiday designated for lovers, which makes this month a fabulous time to explore intimacy with your partner in new ways.

It could see you trying new sex positions, experimenting with toys or simply starting a conversation about a bucket list of things to try as a couple.

Sex expert Sarah Riccio, owner of delicto.com, revealed her top tips on how to approach spicing things up with your partner.

She said, if you want to try a new position but your lover feels nervous, it doesn’t always mean they won’t give it a go.

But it’s important to address feelings of discomfort or performance anxiety before jumping into new territory.

Couples may be thinking of new ideas to try on Valentine’s Day
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Before trying anything new she said people should take plenty of time to address wants, needs, fears and, if applicable, safe words.

If you’re both exploring a new position for the first time, don’t be afraid to tell your partner how you’re feeling, even if it’s not overwhelmingly positive.

The more you let yourself be vulnerable with your lover – the greater your shared intimacy will be.

Here are some new positions you could try to spice things up.

Mirror sex

Making love in front of a mirror can make any position feel more romantic because couples get to admire themselves mid-play.

This can also be a great steppingstone for folks who aren’t quite ready to try a new position, but still want to explore a sexy, new sensory experience.

Up-close missionary

Also known as “modified missionary,” this position puts a romantic spin on a fan-favourite classic.

You start in missionary as you normally would, but the receiver wraps their legs around their lover to pull them in extra close, while the giver cradles their partner’s head and draws it into the erogenous zone between their ear and shoulder.

This slight modification allows players to hear and feel each other’s breath and body movements in an incredibly intimate way.

Adding a mirror into your saucy sex sessions could help to take things to the next level
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From behind

Lovers who have never tried a “doggy-style” position might want to give it a go.

There’s no one right way to do it, which might ease your mind if you’re a beginner, as long as the giver is behind the receiver.

The romantic part about this position is that the giver is able to explore their lover’s body from a new, exciting angle.

They can rub their partner’s back while they receive, reach around their body to provide clitoral stimulation, whisper sweet nothings in their ear, kiss the back of their neck – the options are endlessly intimate.

Sarah said: “If your partner is opposed to the idea of exploring new sex positions, it’s important to not get angry or frustrated with them.

“Pressing the issue or trying to convince them is not a good idea either, and will likely only spark feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, and resentment.

“Instead, listen to your partner, validate their feelings, and assure them that you only ever want to explore intimacy in a way that makes them feel comfortable and cared for.

“You might also suggest revisiting the conversation after you’ve done more research together and established effective ways of addressing wants, needs, and fears.”

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