‘I’m going on vacation with my ex-husband – we simply promise to not contact one another’
A girl nonetheless goes on household holidays together with her ex-husband – they only have strict guidelines and promise to not contact one another.
Kodye Elyse, 35, and her former companion, Brian, 38, cut up in August 2018 after they felt that they had “turned into roommates”.
The dad and mom have two daughters – aged eight and 10 – and a six-year-old son and wished to assist their kids have an “easy transition” following their divorce.
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Kodye stated it took her and Brian, a nationwide gross sales director, time to achieve their “respect” again for one another following the separation.
A couple of years down the road they are saying they’re “close” once more, and spend Christmas, birthdays and household holidays collectively.
They will take day journeys as a household akin to going to the “pumpkin patch” and now have dinner collectively.
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The dad and mom dwell individually however have an “open policy” at one another’s houses – however declare they’d all the time give one another a textual content to say they have been coming over.
Kodye and Brian nonetheless set boundaries – akin to not sleeping over at one another’s home until in an emergency – and neither are at the moment courting.
The mum-of-three nonetheless desires her ex to search out somebody new, and thinks the “right person” will have the ability to match into the household.
Kodye, a content material creator, from Los Angeles, California, stated: “We’re each centered on elevating our children.
“Our friendship is the primary factor of their lives – it comes earlier than courting.
“Vacations are core recollections for our children, so we need to be there along with them.
“We get an Airbnb so we will have separate rooms.
“We have an open-door policy – he’s always welcome here. But I don’t just hang out with him – I hang out with him and the kids.”
(Image: Kodye Elyse / SWNS)
Some suppose the pair are “hooking up” – however the mum believes women and men may be buddies.
Kodye and Brian first hit it off after they met in 2006, and later tied the knot in June 2011 earlier than beginning a household.
Over time they only grew aside, and knew they couldn’t stay a pair.
“We had a lot of common young couple issues,” Kodye added.
“You turn into a different person. We turned into roommates.”
Even although every thing is now high-quality between the previous couple, they admit they put strict guidelines in place to verify it really works.
Kodye stated: “We stated no introducing different companions to youngsters earlier than companion – and never till you’ve been seeing a very long time.
“No speaking badly concerning the different in entrance of the youngsters and no combating in entrance of them.
“We wanted the kids to have an easy transition.”
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Kodye stated her and Brian have been “slowly progressing” their co-parenting – however each felt it was vital the youngsters obtained to nonetheless go on their annual vacation.
She defined: “We by no means noticed why the youngsters ought to miss out on that simply because we’re not married.
“We go to the mountains and to the beach in the summer.”
They don’t “hang out” with out the youngsters as they’ve their particular person lives.
The pair additionally share a versatile custody schedule – which means they let their youngsters have a say in the event that they want to change something.
Kodye stated: “Maybe one of many youngsters desires a little bit house from their siblings and needs to return again to me. We allow them to know they’ve some say in their very own lives as properly.
“Christmas morning Brian might be over when the youngsters get up and we do presents collectively.
“After, we alternate and typically the youngsters will go along with Brian and his household or with me and mine.
“We’re still divorced. I don’t look at Brian and see the same person he was when we were married.”
(Image: Kodye Elyse / SWNS)
Although they now have an ideal friendship, Kodye and Brian admit they must work exhausting at it.
They now “function as friends”, they usually hope they’ll each meet the proper individual some day.
“We don’t touch in front of the kids – we need to make sure it’s not confusing for the kids,” stated Kodye.
“If my kids are happy, I’m happy. Nothing about our house is broken.”
Brian added: “Kodye and I’ve all the time prioritised our youngsters and made positive that they see us functioning as mature adults each to one another, and as dad and mom inside a household unit.
“We don’t feel that our kids should need to stop making memories as a family even though we made the decision to divorce.”
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